All About the V: An In-Depth Guide to Her Lady Parts
The vagina: a warm, moist cave of pleasure and mystery, surrounded by the wondrous valley that is the vulva. Women love them; men love them; but do we all really understand them? Most of us would like to say that the answer to that question is yes. Unfortunately for a portion of those poor souls, their knowledge barely scratches the clitoral hood. Just like a woman’s mind, vaginas can be hard to read. Even if you’ve been up close and personal with dozens, the complexity of the vaginal area cannot fully be conquered without some semblance of outside facts.
It’s okay to come clean about your clitoral confusion or pubic perplexities, but you can’t confess and then expect your ignorance to clear up on its own. The first step is admission, and the second step is studying. To help you get a better grasp on the female genitalia, I’ve broken it down into parts… lovely lady parts.
This little guy is the key to a woman’s pleasure. It has over 8,000 nerve endings, which is TWICE what the penis has. You may be aware of its existence, but you have to know where it is and how to touch it. This is where things get intricate because there is so much more to this little pleasure button than meets the eye. For starters, there are quadrants of the clitoris, with each person enjoying one more than the other. For me, the upper left quadrant (if you were face to vagina) makes me go crazy, but other women may like the upper left, or the lower right; think of it as a mathematical graph and you’re trying to find the plot point of pleasure. It also is longer than it appears, extending into the pubic area, also known as the inner clitoris. Although only a small portion sees the light of day (the glans), the clitoris is actually about 5-9cm long. The inner clitoris consists of the corpus cavernosum and the crura. Okay, what kind of of mystical places are these? The corpus cavernosum is the erectile tissue that allows the clitoris to stand at attention when aroused, and the crura are the legs that attach under the surface of the pubic area. The vestibular bulbs, while a separate structure, are made of the same erectile tissue as the cavernosum, and cause the vulva to swell when aroused. Now that we have the most intricate part mapped out, let’s continue.
The elusive g-spot, while not quite as elaborate as the clitoris, has an existence that is rather controversial. Some still cling heavily to the idea that the g-spot is but a myth. However, speaking as a person who has a vagina, my many g-spot orgasms I’ve had throughout my sexual experiences begs to differ with that theory. The very real g-spot is really only about an inch or two deep on the front wall of the vagina. It kind of feels like a walnut and is immensely sensational when stroked correctly. When aroused, it enlarges, but the opposite also happens. So if your partner isn’t turned on, finding it will be like searching for buried treasure. It runs underneath the urethra and base of the bladder, and is made up of paraurethral tissue similar to the male prostate. That’s why these two gender specific parts of the genitalia are so closely related, (and why it seems prostate play is on the rise in men). When aroused to the point of climax, the stimulation of the g-spot is essentially what causes female ejaculation, and even though this is released through the urethra, it is most certainly not urine.
Okay.. What the heck is that? The mons veneris, or mons pubis, is a fancy name for the patch of skin that covers your pubic bones, or the area right above the vulva. Its overall purpose is simple: protection from potentially painfully thrusting during intercourse. Basically, it’s like a buffer. It may sound weird, but rubbing this area can actually add to a woman’s pleasure. Remember the inner clitoris with all the fancy, scientific names? Well, it lies partially underneath the mons veneris. So, when you rub this area, you’re really stimulating the inner clitoris. Rubbing this area while paying attention to the outer part of the clitoris makes for an even more intense sensation, and possibly a speedier orgasm.
The labias are the two sets of vaginal lips that surround the opening of the vagina. The larger of the pair, the labia majora, are the outer lips of the vulva that connect to the mons veneris on the upper end, and connect just above the perineum on the lower end. It’s usually very plump and is comprised of fatty tissue. The smaller pair, the labia minora, are located between the labia majora, and are flaps of fatless skin that cover the urethra and opening to the vagina. The top of the labia minora joins the clitoral hood near the top, and attaches near the bottom at the fourchette, or the flap of skin directly under the vaginal opening. These protective lips are not quite as high in nerve endings as the clitoris or g-spot, but are still sensitive to stimulation. The moist lips of the minora have erectile tissue just like the inner clitoris, while the majora swell when aroused, and recede slightly, to give the vulva a little more sight. Think of them as lips on your face. When you’re happy, you smile, pulling back your lips and exposing your teeth. When the vagina’s aroused, the “lips” pull back and expose more of the vulva and vaginal opening, meaning it’s getting ready for the main event.
Wow, that’s a lot of information to take in…
There are so many parts to the vagina and vulva, it’s no wonder so many women have trouble reaching orgasm (or that their partners have trouble getting them there)! The more knowledge you have, the easier it will be solve the vaginal riddle. Hopefully, knowing more about the vagina, how it works, and how much goes into it (no pun intended) should give you a newfound sense of respect and understanding for the beauty that is the female anatomy. And, if you’re in the business of vaginal pleasing, check out this blog on how to step up your cunnilingus skills!