Ask Emily: How Can I Help My Partner Last Longer in Bed?

Dear Emily,

I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and love him to bits. He’s great! The only thing that kinda gets me down is that he doesn’t last as long as he used to. He says that he’s just too turned on, which I guess I understand, but he doesn’t try to help me finish. What can I do to help him last longer? And how can I get him to understand that he should be helping ME orgasm too, not rolling over and passing out?

Thank you for your insight!
Miranda from Canada

Okay Miranda, this is a sensitive situation, and not entirely uncommon. Men’s stamina has a tendency to fluctuate over time, so I’m not concerned here—there are plenty of ways you can work together to help him last longer. What I’m more concerned about is the fact that he doesn’t seem to care about pleasing you first.

Whether he doesn’t realize how important your pleasure is, or he’s just playing lazy, this simply will not do. Great sex generally centers around both parties leaving satisfied, so your man needs to tune in to your sexual needs. Unfortunately men are not mind-readers, no matter how much we wish they were; the only way to help your guy make a change is to have the much-needed sex conversation.

So how do you communicate your foreplay needs to your partner? To learn how to approach this sensitive subject, and find out what YOU can do to even the orgasm odds, check out the full article on…

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