Ask Emily: I Can’t Keep an Erection Anymore
Q: Dear Emily,
I’m recently divorced and began listening to your show to elevate my game before reentering the dating pool. Thank you for delivering great information in such an entertaining way! I am now in a relationship with a lovely woman ten years my junior (I’m 56) and have been having some issues “down there.”
I wasn’t concerned at first, but now it seems I lose my erection more than I can keep it. I’ve never had trouble staying hard before, and while I recognize I’m not a 25-year-old anymore, I’m starting to worry. Where should I look for a solution? Are pills the best answer?
Thanks for your help here and for all you do,
Jay, 56, OR
A: Dear Jay,
This problem is extremely common, especially as men age. And I know even talking about it can feel stressful or confusing, so thank you for writing me. First, there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Erectile dysfunction affects as many as 30 million men. The first thing I’ll tell you is to get a check up. There are any number of health issues that may be to blame for what you’re experiencing, and you want to rule those out. Next, be aware that stress can also play a part in ED, so if that rings true, consider addressing it before anything else.
But, if your physical and mental well-being is accounted for and the problem persists, it’s time to consider other treatments. Thankfully, there are a lot of different solutions out there.
Let’s start by addressing a solution you mentioned– pills. These are on-demand answers that can definitely work, and they’ve been around for long enough to show a track record of success. However, just like any treatment, they might not be for everyone. While pills may temporarily increase blood flow, they don’t address the underlying problems.
Recent research has shown that one common cause of erectile dysfunction is the build up of micro-plaque that can get worse over time. Micro-plaque can act like a dam, restricting the blood flow necessary for a full erection. But now shockwaves can be used to break up the plaque, increase the blood flow to the penis, and improve sexual function.
A shockwave treatment I’m really excited about is called GAINSWave, because it combats ED in a unique way. Their treatment uses non-invasive, low-intensity soundwaves, often referred to as Low-Intensity Extracorporeal Shockwave Therapy (LI-ESWT). This breaks up the micro-plaque while stimulating the growth of new blood vessels. In addition, these soundwaves can even activate the growth of new nerve tissue in the penis! This revolutionary process, called neurogenesis, can actually enhance sensitivity in the penis.
Again, you’ll need to do some homework before you decide how to proceed here, Jay. You can learn more about GAINSWave by clicking here.
But the fact that you’re taking action sooner than later means you’re giving yourself the best chance.
Thanks so much for listening, and congrats on jumping back into the dating pool!