There’s a lot that goes into forming a healthy relationship. There’s compromise, establishing boundaries, and of course choosing a Thai take out place you both like. Underneath it all, however, is a foundation of trust.
Trust and honesty ensure that you and your partner can be on the same page through the good times, and the not so good ones. (Like when you’re fighting about Thai takeout places.)
People talk about trust all the time. But what does it really mean? Let’s break down the building blocks of trust in a healthy relationship.
Experiencing and processing trauma is one of the hardest things we do as humans. Sexual trauma is an incredibly difficult thing to move past whether or not you’re in a relationship. Of course, having these conversations with sexual and romantic partners can be incredibly difficult.
Whether you’ve experienced it, or are dating someone who has, knowing how to navigate sexual trauma in relationships is an important way to make everyone feel safe and secure as you’re getting steamy. Continue Reading
These days it’s natural to need a moment to turn off the lights, tune into the computer, and pretend — even just for five minutes — that you’re not living through a global pandemic. And a great way to help that fantasy along is, drumroll please… Porn!
Whether you and your partner are in a similar income bracket or not, it isn’t easy to know how to talk about money. Money can be a sensitive topic, and feelings can get hurt. Even the strongest couples can find themselves fighting over savings accounts or frivolous spending.
While you may never look forward to having a money talk with your partner, there are ways to make the conversation a lot less painful.
Like a Chia Pet you totally forgot about, resentment can grow without anyone really noticing. One day, over coffee and bagels, seemingly out of nowhere, you realize you can’t stand the way your partner chews. Not only that, you can’t stand how they never help with dishes. They take up so much space in your house and made you cancel plans to go to their work event. You love your partner and have no plans on calling it quits, and yet, you can’t help but notice that resentment is there in full force.
Maybe you keep asking your partner to help around the house and you keep getting ignored. Maybe you can’t stop wondering if you would quit your job and move to another city to be with your boo. Even the best relationships have their bitter moments.
Though inspirational memes and canvas tote bags worn by women at the farmers market may tell us to “Speak Our Truths”, the truth is, being honest with the people you love can be really frickin’ difficult. And when you’ve been dealing with the same problem over, you just noticed that you’re feeling kind of off about something, or you’re so far deep into a relationship conflict you’ve given up hope — it can feel impossible to know how to come clean about your feelings and move forward together.
After The Longest Day Ever, you’re excited to finally have a glass of wine on the couch and vent to your boo about your mom, your boss, your landlord, and the woman on the subway eating a tuna fish sandwich at 8:00 in the morning. No matter the problem, your partner always gives the best advice. As you wait for their usual pearls of wisdom, you realize it’s been a while since they’ve said anything, let alone anything extra insightful. You turn to look them in the eyes, and realize they’re in their cell phone. They’re leaving you, and your feelings completely tuned out.
There are few worse feelings than talking to someone you love, and realizing they’re ignoring you. One of these worse feelings is realizing it’s for a game of Candy Crush. Whether your boo is sucked into Instagram or addicted to texting, feeling ignored is an awful feeling. If your partner is so glued to their cell that they’re starting to ignore you every time you spend time together IRL, they may be full-on phubbing (snubbing you with their phone) you. And it might be kind of (read: completely) affecting your sex life.
Going back to your date’s place means more than getting lucky. It means getting a deeper look into all the little things that make them who they are. From decorations to temperature to available food (or lack thereof), seeing someone’s home for the first time can provide you with all sorts of hidden information about them.
Some people are on the shyer side or they don’t tend to talk about their hobbies/passions. Seeing their home may give you a wealth of things to talk about.
When first dating someone, you want to absorb all the information you can. Here are different things you can infer about someone after seeing their house for the first time:
What’s that Ludacris lyric, you want a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets? Healthy sexuality means connecting with someone in the streets, sheets, and everywhere in between.
Yes, feeling so attracted to someone that you want to rip their clothes off will make you feel close. However, non-sexual intimacy can be equally as important.
Sometimes you don’t want to get out of bed in a sexy way. You and your boo woke up feeling frisky, you went from bed to the shower back to bed and five more minutes quickly turned into 35 more minutes. And three orgasms. A new record.
Of course, sometimes you don’t want to get out of bed in a totally not sexy way. You don’t have any energy. You’re not enjoying things the way you used to. You feel tired and down all the time. Or worse, you don’t feel anything at all.
Whether you’ve dealt with depression for a while or you’re experiencing it for the first time — navigating your mental health can be totally overwhelming. And when sex is the last thing on your mind, it can be hard to know how to keep up the spark. Here are some tips on balancing sex and depression.
Sometimes, you just don’t want to have sex. Maybe you ate too many nachos. Or you’ve been totally overwhelmed at work. Perhaps you’re not super into your date/partner. Maybe literally nothing is wrong and you’re just not horny. There are a whole host of reasons you may feel like shutting the sultry down. Continue Reading