Sex toys and pleasure products still remain a controversial topic. Some people are completely turned off and intimidated by the idea because they think using such technology is unnatural or somehow a criticism on their own skills in the bedroom.
Others are totally in favor of anything sex toy related. So much so, they don’t even see using a Magic Wand during sex as kinky.
The human body is pretty extraordinary. All of its systems working together to keep us alive, trying their best to keep us healthy (even with all the shit we put in our bodies), all so we can continue to delve into the pleasures, pains, and mysteries the world has to offer us.
One of the most complex of these systems is the reproductive – and while scientifically it is for, well, reproduction, it does oh, so much more.
Relationships are changing, society is changing (however slow the progress may be), and so is the way we think about sex. Our old definitions are limiting.
So, if our definitions of sex are evolving, then what does that mean for virginity?
The “friend zone.” We’ve all heard of it, and some claim to have been there (although it’s existence is debatable). The connotation remains at a negative.
What is the “friend zone,” really? It should be an awesome hangout spot for you and your buddies to go – equipped with a bar, arcade games, and maybe a trampoline (a girl can dream, right?) – but it’s not.
Back in December, we here at Sex With Emily, asked you all to reflect on your sex life over the past year to see what you liked, what you didn’t, and what you could do to change things for the better. Then, we wanted to know what steps you were going to take to make sure 2018 was the year you became the best lover yet – with a partner and with yourself. Of course, we also made pledges of our own.
It’s the start of the new year and people are flooding the gyms, starting to eat healthy, and work on developing new and better habits. Most of us know that when it comes to making resolutions, once it hits February, they fall by the wayside.
Instead of making the typical false promises to yourself (special shout out to those that actually stick to them), why not make promises you actually want to keep? What kind of promises? Bedroom ones, of course!
When you’re getting a sex toy for your lover, while it may be a gift for them, you know you’ll want to reap some of the benefits, too. Or, if you’re a really good friend to a couple – a really good friend – looking to help spice up their sex lives, you want to get a toy that both of them will appreciate.
Most pleasure products are either for men or for women, but there are a few out there that were made with any gender in mind (even if you don’t identify). So, whether you’re using it together, or taking turns (after cleaning, of course), a toy that anyone can use brings a whole new meaning to sharing is caring.
When it comes to sex toys, it seems that the industry is largely tailored to women, and it is. Women’s pleasure is not that easy to come by.
Yes, those of us that identify as females are lucky when it comes to enhanced pleasure because we’ve got so many different gadgets and gizmos to choose from.
Men may have a generally easier time getting off without a hitch, but that doesn’t mean they don’t want a little extra sensation from time to time.
Once you start having sex, after all your experiences, partners, and any mishaps that have probably happened along the way, you start to develop “moves” or a routine. You see what works for you, what may work for most of your partners, and you stick to that because, well, it’s what you know.
That’s a big reason why we do what we do here–– people are always looking to spice things up, change the game, perfect it. One of the best ways to do that is to open up the dialogue and see what others have to say, not just the experts.