There is an interesting phenomena that happens while you’re online dating. Guys that you think you will never hear from again reappear, and most of the time, it’s months and months later. They’re always expecting that you’ll be free, happy to hear from them, and willing to give them another chance, even though they really don’t deserve one. Yes, this happened to me twice this week.
We all have those, “what if” moments in life, and when it comes to relationships and dating, those moments tend to happen even more often. A big one for me, and I imagine many other women, is the realization “What if I asked him out?”
I know, the idea sounds scary, but it’s actually not that bad. No matter how liberated or modern or brave we imagine ourselves to be, many women have decided that they will never ask out a guy. But I’m here to tell you, you should be making the first move. Now it doesn’t always work out, but it won’t kill you and you’ll eliminate the “what if” that currently enjoys dancing around in your head.
Recently, I heard of this dangerous game people play while they are drinking. It’s called “Call or Delete”. The way it works is you get together with your closest and most trusted friends, who take your phone and go through the contacts. You randomly yell “stop” and whichever contact they stop on, you have to call right then and there or delete them off of your phone forever. I told you this was dangerous!
When it comes to dating, some rules are standard: not having sex until the 3rd date, walking the fine line between dressing sexy and slutty, or not revealing too much, too soon.
But what about the one rule you may be breaking without even realizing it: Dating the same person over and over. I don’t mean you break up and get back together with the same person – I mean you date the same kind of person. You have a “type,” and until it was pointed out to me, I had no idea I was doing just that.
Today is the day to celebrate women, our achievements, and ponder on what is left to accomplish. Despite the fact that women became “liberated” in the 1960’s, we still face an overwhelming taboo when it comes to sex. Even now, the enjoyment and open discussion of sex tends to be associated with either “confident” men or “slutty” women, which is just not right. So with this taboo in mind, I thought it would be fun and interesting to use this momentous day to talk about a few the female pioneers of sex – The women who brought us a little bit closer to sexual wellness and freedom!
There are three moments in your adult life that are truly the most memorable: There’s graduating, moving out on your own, and finding your G-spot. Well recently, I was able to add “finding my G-Spot” to my list of accomplishments.
Tell me if this scenario sounds familiar; you meet a guy, either online or in real life. You hit it off and are constantly texting. Then you meet up once, maybe twice if you’re lucky. You think to yourself, “finally! I found the one. This is the guy for me!” Time passes and you don’t hear from this fella. A few texts he ignores later, and you realize you are never going to hear from this guy ever again. Well, I’m sorry to tell you that you fell for a disappearing dater.
There is a new reality show out called, “Big Women, Big Love.” It’s about plus-sized women looking for love. Not surprisingly, the women featured on the show have a difficult time trying to date in a society where thin and ultra thin is “in vogue”, and it doesn’t look like that will change anytime soon.
New Years Resolutions are all the same and so cliche. Losing weight. Exercising more. Quitting smoking. And while those are important, a lot of people neglect their dating and/or sexual lives. This year, my resolutions will focus on dating and relationships.
I am single *gasp* and fine with it. Usually though, around this time of the year, I do want to be in a relationship. Mostly because I’m tired of the questions and comments about my dating life, or lack there of. Having a resolution to be in a relationship would be silly, but I do have 3 things that I will do this year in regards to my dating life. If that leads to a relationship, awesome. If not, that’s cool too.. At least I’ll have a great 2015!
One of the most detrimental issues that can crop-up if you’re in a long-term relationship is the lack of communication around sex.
Sure, it seems simple enough to just talk to each other, but it can be so hard to get the conversation started. Especially if talking about sex is unchartered territory, as it is for many couples.
A fun and sexy way to open up communication with your partner is with a sensual massage. Of course a sensual massage might leads to sex (which is never a bad thing) but more importantly it also leads to better communication. Not just verbally, but through the body as well, which is one of the most effective kinds of communication in a relationship.