August is a great month. Even though the heat can be staggering and there are no major holidays, August is Alternative Sex month. This very sexy theme is basically an open invitation to explore you and your partner’s unique desires in any and every way possible. Alternative Sex month is also a great way to rally around awareness about alternative sex in general. For many people, alternative sex is their everyday choice for sexual expression. But while “Alternative Sex” month sounds immediately amazing, it’s still a relatively new terminology and monthly festivity. To kick off the month, Sex with Emily wants to give you the inside scoop on what alternative sex is all about. The why, what, hows and wows we outline here will help you embrace alternative sex in its many forms!
Let’s talk about casual sex. When I first sat down to write this article, I imagined the premise would be all about not taking casual sex too seriously. The plan was to whip up an editorial on letting go of shame and guilt in order to prime our darling readers for a wild ride of right swipes and sexy stranger games. But as I began my research, learning how so many people are sincerely conflicted about the topic of casual sex, I began taking the topic much more seriously. And honestly, I think we all should…
But hold up.
I believe it was Selena Gomez (or Emily Dickenson) who famously wrote, “The heart wants what it wants…” And I think the same can be said of the clitoris. Think about it, this once seemingly mythic organ exists solely for pleasure, it contains 8,000 delicious nerve endings, and it can be the most surefire path to orgasm. Of course it wants what it wants! What we need to do now is listen to it. Continue Reading
First thing’s first, lesbian sex is sex, is sex, is sex— nuanced for each person, relationship, and occasion. Lesbian sex can entail mutual masturbation or oral sex. It can be a festive polyamorous party or an old married couple doing their best to keep the flames of desire aglow after the kids go off to college. Every woman and trans-woman, regardless if she identifies as boi, butch, alpha, bi, unicorn, diesel, lipstick, queer, or another “type,” carries with her the same complex sexuality and sensuality all females share. Since the dawn of human sexuality studies, one fact about a woman’s desire remains constant… it’s always changing.
As Masturbation May reaches its final climax, we here at SWE want to help you really out-do yourself in the self-pleasure department. Friends, the time has come to double your pleasure, double your fun and start using multiple toys while masturbating.
As we celebrate Masturbation May, it’s important to recognize why self-pleasure is so important. Of course this month is all about loving yourself with the goal of an earth-shattering climax, but it’s also about recognizing that masturbation is a healthy and wonderful expression of your amazing sexual self. Masturbation May is also the perfect time to show your lover exactly what feels best for you and your body, and to see what makes your partner hot too. So let’s jump in the shower for our six hottest tips on how to get dirty with some good, clean, masturbation fun.
Ah the refreshing season of spring, when everything feels fresh, new and—dare we say—sexy. As the weather warms and the world blooms with fresh vigor, our primordial nature takes over. Simply put, it’s mating season y’all!
But as the highly evolved species we are, there’s a lot more to the season than just the birds and bees. In fact, most of us will kick off the longer days by spring cleaning our lives. Here at Sex with Emily, we’ve decided to combine these two pastimes to give you a fun guide to spring cleaning your sex life. So open up your windows and dust off your dildos, because it’s time to get your sexual space so fresh and so clean, clean.
It’s raining in Los Angeles. And it’s coming down hard. Out on the sopping wet streets, I can hear the crescendo of passing sirens getting louder and louder, then quietly fading to nothing. It’s probably cops. A lot of us Angelenos go kinda crazy when the weather gets like this.
I know, I do.
My lover telephones to say, “Sorry sweetheart, I won’t be able to make it.” (Well he sent a text, but you know what I mean).
I’m already climbing the walls when I get the news I’d be riding solo. And there’s no sign this rain is letting up anytime soon. The city is soaked but there’s an electric pulse in the air that makes your whole body hum with anticipation. A storm is coming in.
What’s a girl to do on a mad night like this? If you think I should watch a movie or curl up with a good book, then you don’t know what kind of a dame you’re dealing with.
No. There is only one thing to do. Well, two things to be precise… two very special things. And this is their story: a tale of two wands. Continue Reading
Here’s how to play: Relax your body… take a deep, deep inhale… let it all out with a sigh. Take a few more breaths until you feel yourself getting languid and relaxed. Now start to imagine your ultimate Valentine’s Day date.
Let’s fast-forward through the dinner and champagne, the eating too much candy or hiding disappointment that someone forgot you don’t actually like red roses. Instead, focus on all the ways your lover makes you feel. Picture your bodies entwined, kissing, maybe playing a little rough before lightly brushing your fingertips over their body. Now hold on to this thought—no, hold on to this feeling—because this is how you plan the ultimate Valentine’s Day. Continue Reading
Ah Valentine’s Day… the one day a year to be unabashedly and wholeheartedly invested in celebrating amore. Of course, all of us here at Sex with Emily celebrate love and sex all year long, but even we recognize that Valentine’s Day is extra special. Or at least… it used to be.
From the chubby cherubs to chocolate hearts, everything about this designated day of love has started to feel a bit bland. V-Day has fought off the title of mere Hallmark Holiday for some time now, but a recent survey from epi24 (creators of Womanizer) found that people, women especially, are less interested in Valentine’s Day than ever before. In fact, 41% of respondents said they’re dreading the holiday—and those were just the ones in relationships. Yikes! Continue Reading