talk_about_sex_640Dear Emily,

 I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about eight months. We’ve spent a lot of time learning each other’s bodies, figuring out what turns us on and exploring new things together. In general, the sex is really hot. There’s just one issue in the bedroom: He doesn’t shut up! I know he gets really turned on by dirty talk so I’m working on getting better at it, but he takes it to a whole other level, asking “Do you love me? How much do you love me? Tell me how much you want this d—k!” over and over again. I have no idea how to respond to any of this in a sexy way. And when I don’t answer, he just keeps prodding me! It’s so distracting, it totally takes me out of the moment. It’s even making it hard for me to climax. How can I bring this up to him without offending him?
Love, Lauren, 24

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girl on computerIt’s no secret that pornography is increasingly more accessible to teens in today’s technological age. Before, the only way you were seeing any porn action is if you stumbled across a parent or older sibling’s stash of dirty magazines or snuck into a smut film. Now, the super raunchy, hardcore stuff is really only a few clicks away, and kids today know how to clear their browser histories by the time they’ve reached the eighth grade. The truth is… There is nothing wrong with watching porn. The problem, however, stems from the reality that a lot of teens are using porn, not only to get hot and bothered, but to actually learn about sex.

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Screen Shot 2016-08-25 at 3.47.48 PMLike a lot of women, I didn’t have the most pleasurable introduction to anal play. I was pressured, unprepared, and as a result, found myself in a fair amount of pain. My experience left me figuratively scarred and utterly apprehensive to re-approach any sexual rear-entry. But as I’ve grown sexually and personally, one of my ongoing goals has been opening doors that I had hastily deemed permanently closed. For me, an upstanding symbol of this sexual renaissance is the glorious butt plug. Continue Reading

pictureperfectYou hear questions about mismatched libidos all the time on my podcast—One partner naturally desires sex more than the other, and resentments begin to build. So what does it actually feel like to be the partner who wants sex less?
Pam shares an important lesson she learned about her own struggle with desire and its affects on her marriage in the latest Down to There blog… 

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low-section-park-children-in-row-at_78c267aa-50cf-11e6-85e3-522dd231fa74Hello, I have a confession to make. After compiling several unread text messages and missed calls from old dates and one-night stands; I realized I have a problem. All this time I thought I was just a picky dater and a bad replier, but it’s more serious than that. I’m a serial bencher. Continue Reading

Hi Emily,

I’m 24 years old and the guy I’m dating is my first sexual partner—so I’m a newbie at everything but I’m pretty open to learning and trying new things. I know he really wants me to give him a blow job, but I don’t know how! I have a ton of fear around it. I really want to try it, but I can’t get over that scared feeling I get when I think about doing it, partly because I don’t know what I’m doing but also because I want us both to enjoy the experience.

What can I do to get over the fear and become more comfortable with giving him a blow job? And how can I make it a good one?

Mimi

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