Background: 34-year-old guy, virgin, never had a relationship. This is due to my practically lifelong struggle with major clinical depression. The issues are largely resolved and I feel great! I’m now out there trying to meet the right girl.Positive qualities: I’m handsome, make $80k a year good personality, responsible, and am fit. Negative qualities: I can’t think of any. Continue Reading

Thanks so much,
I just got out of a long-term relationship. I still talk to my ex all the time and we’re really good friends right now, even though we live in different cities. He and I never had the most exciting sex life while we were together, but now that I’m single, I’m ready to have my sex life back! So I was just wondering what your advice would be for someone who is newly single and physically ready, but maybe not entirely emotionally ready?
Thanks!
Liz, North Carolina
I just recently signed up with OkCupid to give this online dating thing a try. I’m a newbie so I’m not up on all the rules and hidden rules. My question is would it be cool to tell a girl she’s cute in the first message? Are there any tips on what girls want to see in that first message?
Thanks,
Stan
Costa Mesa, CA



I have a question. I have communicated to my partners that I don’t want a complete commitment and want to keep things light. They don’t listen. I try to spell it out. I try to be subtle. Nothing seems to work. I don’t have a fear of monogamy but was in a long marriage where sexual compatibility was terrible. She made me feel awful for wanting it. I just wanted to point that out before my question rattled the monogamy bell.

