Have you ever heard the saying “You don’t buy the car without taking it for a test drive”? Most of the time, this age old adage is used in favor of premarital sex… An important topic for another day, no doubt.
In this moment, however, I’m applying it to living with a significant other—A journey I recently embarked upon. And let me tell you, if I didn’t believe in the car theory pre-cohabitation, I certainly do now. Continue Reading
You hear questions about mismatched libidos all the time on my podcast—One partner naturally desires sex more than the other, and resentments begin to build. So what does it actually feel like to be the partner who wants sex less?
Pam shares an important lesson she learned about her own struggle with desire and its affects on her marriage in the latest Down to There blog…
You know how I’m always talking about the importance of mindful breathing when it comes to your pleasure? Well breath can also play a powerful role sexual desire… As Pam found out in her first Somatica coaching session!
Read on to find out how breathing “all the way down to there” helped her reconnect with her body and discover something new about herself (or to catch up, check out her first blog here)…
Confidence. All the dating experts, coaches, and publications in the world that have anything to do with dating preach the importance of confidence for attracting women – and rightfully so. But confidence doesn’t stop being important when a relationship begins. Continue Reading
Q: I’ve been with my boyfriend for around 8 months and have still never had a REAL orgasm during sex. And as if this isn’t bad enough, my partner has no idea, because I’ve gotten into the habit of faking it. I know, it’s terrible!
It’s that time of year again: time for spring cleaning, where it’s out with the old and in with the new. People start to go through their closets and cupboards, deciding what stays and what goes—it’s therapeutic, refreshing, and a long-standing tradition.
Along with last season’s sweaters and that broken down toaster oven, spring cleaning also presents us with the opportunity to take a really hard look at our relationships. This is a time for getting rid of possessions AND people that no longer serve you; a time to reevaluate your negative behaviors, throw out whatever isn’t working, and spice up your daily routine. Continue Reading
Q: Hi Emily!
I’m 24 and my boyfriend is 42, and lately we have been having problems with his—as he calls it—“retroactive jealousy”. Though I am much younger than him, I’ve had many more lovers than he has. As a result, he’s always bringing up my past experiences and comparing them to his own. He constantly bombards me with questions and asks me to recall memories that I would rather not think about. Is it okay that he’s asking me to divulge my sexual history to him? What good could possibly come of it? How do I help him understand that my past has nothing to do with our present?
We all have that friend that is around all the time, but as soon as they are in a new relationship, they completely disappear. And then sometimes… That person is us. When we’re so consumed with that feeling of newfound love, it’s hard to remember all of the other things in our life that bring us joy on a regular basis, like our friends for example, our hobbies or even our families.
It’s okay to take interest in your beau’s life, but you shouldn’t let this new person—who’s been around for a total of five seconds—consume your own life in the process. Continue Reading