Many have equated the act of having sex to the act of eating pizza: even if it’s not that good, it’s still pretty good. Being that sex and pizza are my two favorite things in this vice-filled world, I would like to call bullsh*t. While it can be difficult for pizza or sex to be completely disappointing, it definitely happens.
Hopefully the amount of crazy, amazing sex you’re having outweighs the mediocre and unsatisfactory bouts, but it’s not going to be sunshine and rainbows every time. For those of us who have had a good amount of sexual excursions in their life, there has tobe at least one horror story you’d like to keep behind closed doors. No matter how bad the sex is, though, it can always be worse. Much, much worse.
Ahh, technology. It really is a wonder how far it’s come. We’ve gone from word of mouth, to written letters, to telegraphs, to phone calls, to texts, and finally instant messaging. With all of these new methods for speaking with each other, it makes sense that the way we have sex would adapt with it. No longer do you need to even be in the same room as someone to get off, thanks to the development of phone sex, sexting, Skype sex, and of course, the newfangled practice of sending nudes. Continue Reading
Consent. A seemingly simple concept that, for many reasons, is largely misunderstood. How can something as easy as a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer be so misconstrued, so often? Contrary to popular belief, ignorance is not always bliss. You may think you know when there’s consent, but unless you’re 100 percent on the same page as your potential sexual partner, the actual act of sex with them remains strictly a possibility. Continue Reading
For those of you who are least partially keen to the fact that great sex involves MORE than just sex, I congratulate you. You’re halfway there! Most of you are thinking, duh, foreplay, the backbone of any successful sexual bout.
However, there is another section of sex, one that is equally important, that even the most savvy of lovers are not privy to. It’s called afterplay, and it just might be the thing that your bedroom game is missing. Continue Reading
When it comes to your sex toys, there are three factors that always come into play: keeping them clean, keeping them charged, and keeping them stored out of sight. Nothing is worse than an unclean, charged toy, or a clean toy with no charge, and fumbling around under your bed trying to find it is no fun, either. But now there’s UVee!
The walk of shame. Most of us are familiar with the act, many of us have experienced it. If you haven’t, you’ve at least caught someone in the midst of their own. The messed up hair, the unkempt outfit from the night before, the black smears of makeup, and if it was really a wild night, the shoes are in the hand and not on the feet. Continue Reading
When we hear the word ‘kinky,’ we tend to let our minds fall deep into the gutter of the possibilities this word can bring to the bedroom. Getting intimate with someone considered to be on the kinkier side means you most likely won’t be having your run of the mill sexual experience.
Whether you’re aware of where you land on the scale or not, we all have our own level of kink. Maybe you’re into handcuffs, having sex in remote locations, or you like taking a literalness to playing with fire; the list goes on forever. And, why these particular additions or ideas make us unable to control our urges may be indescribable, a mystery even to yourself. But hey, whatever works, right? Continue Reading
The most common question we receive here at Sex With Emily, in one form or another, is “How can I have better sex?” It’s an everlasting subject that spikes our curiosity because we all want to have the best sex possible. We’ve heard Emily say many a time that communication is lubrication—Yes, communicating your needs with a partner will totally get you where you need to go. But why stop there? Continue Reading
On June 3rd, a rape victim shared the harrowing story of her assault in an open letter to her rapist. In her statement, she revealed details of her treatment following the vicious attack, the additional trauma she experienced during the trial and her utter dismay at the judge’s light sentencing—The attacker was convicted of 3 felonies, but was only sentenced to a mere 6 months in a county jail.
This horrifying event brought many issues to light: The harmful effects of privilege in our justice system, the shameful treatment of assault victims and the ever-growing epidemic of sexual violence on college campuses. Continue Reading
Let’s be real– Everyone has a list of things they eventually hope to try in their sex life. One could even call it a sexual bucket list. This list can include anything from toys you want to play with to positions you want to try, even places where you’d like to get down and dirty. And while I’m pro-Carpe Diem and think having a sexual bucket list is about the coolest thing ever, my germaphobic instincts kick in when researching some of the things on my own list. Of course, having fun is important, but safety and health come first. It’s important to be aware of the risks being taken when having sex in places that may not be as clean or sanitary as your bed is. I’ve put together a list of locations I think should be blacklisted from sexy time .*Sigh* no matter how fun they may be. Continue Reading