Bad Dating Patterns: Skeletons in Your Dating Closet

skeleton-loveMost of us have a relationships that we wish we could just forget about. Some of us have a few lost loves under our belts. If you’re anything like me you have an entire luxury-sized walk-in closet filled to the brim with skeletons of romantic connections that you’ve managed to murder to death.

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Dear Tinder: I Want My Life Back

jake-w724It was the beginning of the summer and I had just completed my third year of college. After balancing a full time job and a draining school schedule, I needed a hobby to retrieve my soul. I didn’t know what I wanted, but I knew it wasn’t looking for a new book or T.V. show to obsess over. Eventually I figured out what I needed. Three boyfriends, 20 pounds and one year ago, I discovered Tinder.

My first time logging onto Tinder was overwhelming. I was impressed with the advanced options I had to define my potential match. Once I had my preferred age, sex and mile radius set up, I was ready to swipe. I could swipe left and right all day (except when I ran out of likes). After a year of misleading matches and suspicious profiles, I decided to go on a Tinder hiatus. I thought Tinder was going to improve my life, but it created a new one instead. In midst of finding myself, I spread myself far too thin and became careless. I enjoyed the ride, but I knew it would end eventually. I allowed it to control me and take away the following.

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To Sext or Not to Sext? 5 Rules for Safe Sexting

when-to-sext-w724To sext or not to sext? That is the question… At least, it used to be. These days, it seems like everyone has a naughty text or two stored in their inbox and according to recent research, this assumption is not far off. One 2015 study in particular surveyed 870 Americans, 88% of whom admitted to sexting at least once in their life. And these weren’t just millennials!

With the rise in dating apps and social media, it’s no surprise that sexting has become a pivotal part of the mating process. When done correctly, sexting can be seen as the modern-day equivalent of a steamy love letter, minus the debilitating hand cramp (Unless of course… Well, you know!) But send the wrong sext to the wrong person and you’ll be forever saved in their mind as awkward, offensive or downright skeezy.

So how do you know if your sexually explicit message will be received with a sizzle or returned with a restraining order? The success of any sext comes down to two important factors: content and context. What are you sexting? Why are you sexting it? And who are you sending sexually explicit messages to?

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Your Sex Playlist: Music to Make Love To


17Usually, sex makes sounds. Sometimes, it’s nice to cut through the moaning, grunting, squishing and slapping with some good old-fashioned music. Whether you’re just trying to conceal your loud love-making from your roommates in the living room, or you’re really looking to set the sexy-time mood, having a sex playlist is essential.

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Lessons From the (Best) Friend Zone

8df2fec1de5a009f_719332549_1396265643.xxxlargeIf I told you I fell in love with someone every day, would you hold it against me? Just a little shout out to Britney Spears! Seriously though, I see my future husband everywhere. I spot him at the mall, school, Starbucks, and more recently, Disneyland! Even though I don’t know these men, they break my heart because most of them are married, straight or not interested. So maybe I need to crush on people more wisely, but these are not the worst by far. My most intense crushes have been on some of my best friends. If you’ve been in this position, I dedicate this blog to you because you’re not alone.

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Tops, Bottoms & Switch Hitters

Screen Shot 2015-07-19 at 6.26.38 PMOnce upon a time, a magical fairy flew around the world to make an army of gay soldiers. He divided the soldiers into two categories, tops and bottoms. The tops were masculine men and the bottoms were feminine men. He created them to establish order in the gay community, so that they could frolic as they pleased. The gays lived in harmony for centuries until a mysterious soldier appeared. He said he did not belong to a category of soldiers. That versatile (vers) soldier changed the gay community forever…

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Is He “Almost” or “Never?”


I’ve had my fair share of serious committed relationships, casual sex, short-lived romances and friends with benefits. A recurring staple in my dating game, however, has been the “Almost Boyfriend.” Of all my dating tragedies, heartbreaks and hookup-fails, the curse of the almost-boyfriend has always hurt the most. These pseudo-relationships sting the deepest because they feign real commitment and keep those of us that want more, perpetually deprived. It’s no mystery that  countless men and women suffer from commitment-phobia, but with a burgeoning hook-up culture and growing anti-monogamy sentiment this phobia is growing into a full-blown lifestyle choice. Almost relationships of varying degrees are becoming more and more common as less people are opting to settle down with one person for the real deal.

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3 Things We Didn’t Learn From “Sex and the City”

Screen Shot 2015-07-05 at 11.43.13 PMIt’s been 17 years (to this month) that the legendary Sex and the City first hit TV screens via HBO in 1998. Sex and the City was one of those shows that you really either swore by or hated. I was a die hard fan, believing that if I too chose a journalistic career I would inevitably live the fabulous Carrie Bradshaw life: an exciting excess of men, shoes and Cosmopolitans. But were all of the lessons that unfolded accurate or even realistic? Let’s take a break from mourning our nonexistent Carrie-approved shoe collections to weigh some of the phallus-related fallacies that existed in their world of the Upper East Side.

Here are 3 things that we definitely didn’t learn from the show, since they were inaccurate!

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The 6 Degrees of Casual Sex

article-2535282-1A7A1A2400000578-799_306x465In case you missed it, there has been a noticeable trend in the world of sex and relationships: People are having more sex and less relationships.

While this may not hold true for all, you can’t deny that the hookup culture truly is booming. Rather than jumping from one relationship to another, more and more singles are keeping their options open and their commitments minimal. When done right and done responsibly, this can be a great way to explore your sexuality and figure out what you like, both in the bedroom and in a partner… If you can figure out how to navigate the murky waters of no-strings-attached sex.

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The Virgin Diaries

18619-1_nOnce upon a time, I took a man’s virginity. This isn’t odd or strange or unprecedented in all documentation of human history, nor was it a “first” for me. The thing that made this experience, and the ensuing pseudo-relationship, remarkable was that this virgin (let’s call him Victor) was 32 years old.

Victor was not only a virgin of sex, he was a virgin of dating, relationships, ANY sexual activity and even close friendships with women. I was the first naked woman he has ever seen in real life, and I was the first person, besides himself, to ever take a peek at his penis.

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