Once upon a time I had a boyfriend who told me I was loose…
I knew the minute he told me that it was bullshit. I knew his opinion was wrong. I had learned enough about the female anatomy to know, logically, that my vagina was totally normal. No previous partner had ever made mention of my pussy being anything but a wonderful and satisfying place to be. I took care of it, I loved it, I even named her Tallulah Belle! Still, despite my better judgement, his uninformed opinion about the narrowness of my vaginal canal affected me profoundly. Continue Reading
We all have that friend that is around all the time, but as soon as they are in a new relationship, they completely disappear. And then sometimes… That person is us. When we’re so consumed with that feeling of newfound love, it’s hard to remember all of the other things in our life that bring us joy on a regular basis, like our friends for example, our hobbies or even our families.
It’s okay to take interest in your beau’s life, but you shouldn’t let this new person—who’s been around for a total of five seconds—consume your own life in the process. Continue Reading
Sometimes my feelings become so strong they’re unmanageable. Sometimes, I’m so caught up in my emotions I can’t function before funneling my affections into something outside of myself. Sometimes I experience love to a degree that I have an unstoppable need to profess it in a letter. So this is a love letter to one of the most important and impactful members of my life. Continue Reading
Dinner and a movie… sounds exhilarating, right? Just about as exhilarating as a routine dental appointment, if you ask me. This Valentine’s Day, why not spice it up with a new and sexy date idea that you and your loved one can share for the first time together? Save the regular old romantic theater trip, sunset stroll on the beach or Italian dinner for any other Friday night outing — Make this V-Day one to remember and do something sultry and steamy instead.
Ahh, Valentine’s Day. A holiday centered around celebrating love, new and old. Restaurants are booked solid, florists are shelling out thousands of bouquets, and Hallmark is selling truckloads of cards filled with a variety of ways to say ‘I love you.’ It’s very sweet and romantic, but for those of us who aren’t part of a relationship, well… it can kind of suck. Continue Reading
In December the Sex With Emily team wrote a blog sharing their sex and relationship goals for the new year. From making sex a priority to finding that oh-so-coveted Grafenberg spot, there was nothing cliché about their resolutions. Each goal pointed them in the direction of a more successful and pleasurable sex life, which got me thinking. What should be at the top of my sex bucket list for 2016? Continue Reading
Have you ever heard a story or had a hot fantasy that in your mind sounds so incredibly romantic and sexy that just the thought of it is enough to make you weak in the knees and instantly horny?
Well, the fantasy of some of these situations SOUND sexy, but the reality is that well… they really aren’t very sexy at all. Here are a few sexual scenarios that sound fun and kinky at first, but when attempted, are not all they’re cracked up to be. Continue Reading
I’m just going to put this out there — I have had quite a bit of mediocre sex.
No disrespect to my past partners, I certainly had a part in it as well. I expected them all to read my mind and KNOW what I wanted, without ever actually telling them what I wanted. And like many women out there, I gave epic orgasmic performances and handed out positive feedback to guys who didn’t even come close to earning it.
And then something wonderful happened. The sex started getting better! A lot of that had to do with the fact that I started to figure out what I liked in bed and became more comfortable asking for it. But there was also a shift in my partners’ bedroom attitudes that made a big difference. Whether I was choosing more considerate guys, or the guys I always flocked to had done some maturing, I can’t be sure. But all of a sudden, my partners genuinely cared about whether I was having a good time. And as a result, I WAS having a good time. Continue Reading
Brace yourself — New Year’s resolutions are coming.
For me, the act of crafting resolutions for the new year has always felt a bit cliche (as does writing about them, for that matter). Of course I want to hit the gym more and hit Krispy Kreme less, travel more and work a bit less, get a hedgehog and stop getting parking tickets…. The list goes on and on. Unfortunately the act of making resolutions is often just that. An act. Something we think we’d like to do, but will will probably forget once our favorite shows come back from their winter hiatus.
Even the word “resolution” seems to lack conviction..
“Resolution: A firm decision to do or not to do something”
Nothing sexier than a “firm decision”, am I right?
Maybe that’s the issue with resolutions — They lack a certain sex appeal. Even the ones that may indirectly improve our sex life (like exercising or getting more sleep) fail to excite and inspire us. Maybe if our resolutions were a bit more fun, or involved an orgasm or two, we would be more likely to follow through with them, or at the very least, give em’ the old college try. Continue Reading