“I don’t understand why you don’t have a boyfriend,” my friend Ousmane said to me. “I mean, you’re pretty cool.” We were walking along the sandy streets of Dakar, Senegal, on our way to go play soccer.
“Because I don’t WANT a boyfriend,” I responded. “I like being single.”
He looked at me skeptically, which hit a nerve—maybe there was something wrong with me? Was I undateable? Unloveable?—but I reminded myself that the dating culture in Senegal was completely different than the one in America. In a month I would be back home, where singlehood was celebrated and encouraged amongst 20-something year-olds.
Some couples can barely go a few hours without seeing each other, but if you’ve been/are in a long distance relationship (LDR), you know the icy pain of real yearning, craving, and thirst. Whether it’s days, weeks, or months, being apart from your significant other for an extended period of time is hard.
You can’t smell their skin, taste their lips, hear their heart, feel their breath on your neck, or see into their eyes. You don’t realize how precious those basics are until they are gone. Then, when they are gone, thoughts take their place– scary, unsettling thoughts.
But don’t fret! There are a few tricks for your LDR to make it work.
Alternative sex: it can mean many things. Some say it’s an alternative to having sex, but for us, we like to think of it as any action that requires you to get out of your own sexual box. August was a month full of sexual discovery, from fetish experimentation to shower sex to finally finding the g-spot!
Hi! I pushed a baby out of my vagina three months ago! Still reading? Stay with me, it’s going to get more interesting. Most days, the idea of having sex has me feeling… well, look left.
Oral and intercourse are awesome, but once we are allowed to go all the way, we forget that there’s fun to be had with just your hand in someone’s pants. Hand jobs are great for many reasons; they’re an erotic way to feel in control as you make your lover orgasm, they’re fun and easy to do while driving in your car, and they also have a sexy nostalgia to them.
Now let’s kick it old school and get down with some handsy basics.
October kicks off Halloween season, and many of you are already imagining getting your hands on some sweet treats– and I’m not just talking about candy. Between the promise of sexy costumes and nights of snuggling up against your partner, watching horror movies, everything about October makes us want to get our hands on our boos.
Which is why we’re going to teach you all the tricks and treats of proper fingering techniques.
When’s the last time you said “Yes Daddy?” If I had to guess, it’s probably been over ten years at least. Me on the other hand, I said it earlier today, but not to my father, to my boyfriend. No it wasn’t in the midst of an early morning romp in the sack, it was just over coffee.
Calling your lover “Daddy” while making love is one thing, but have you ever even fathomed calling him “Daddy” twenty-four seven?
You know it, you love it, and (in reality) you can’t live without it. That’s right, the name of today’s game is all about antici…
Straight out of Dr. Frank-N-Furter’s mouth, the art of anticipation has been one of humanity’s most trending topics long before Twitter was ever hatched.
Teasing to please, suspenseful seduction– however you phrase it, there are countless ways to do it.
Right now you’re probably reading this article, texting your best friend about what you’re going to wear to dinner tonight, and checking your email, while you’re binge watching your latest obsession. All at once.
Multitasking is the new way of getting things done, and at Sex With Emily, we’re all about it. That’s why we want to share with you our favorite life-hacking, multi-tasking, most-bang-for-your-buck toys that you can enjoy in more than just one way.
Sex is pleasurable; it’s hot; it’s a stress reliever– it’s human nature. Although depicted or fantasized about in romantic and sultry ways, most of the time, there’s going to be an unexpected moment that makes both you and your partner have a good laugh. Because, well, sex is funny.