All for one, and one for all—the Three Musketeers said it themselves. Who knew they could have just as easily been referring to fetishes?
With one (or more) things that help us all get off, the world of kink seems to be one of the most culturally mysterious yet personally familiar concepts around.
We all know location matters when it comes to things like Tinder and Pokemon Go, but what about sex itself? From food and customs to art and language, these factors play a big role in cultural differences among every country’s routine. That said, it makes sense certain sensual trends tend to flourish more in certain areas than others.
Since August is “alternative sex” month, we’re taking a quick trip around the globe to explore the top trends in pleasure protocol—some of which may surprise you!
Let’s get right to the point– anal play is awesome. Of course it’s not for everyone, but if you clicked on this article, then butt stuff might just be the right stuff for you. And you don’t have to have anal sex to enjoy some backdoor fun.
The anus boasts an abundance of nerve endings, making it a lovely little spot to lick, massage and penetrate, regardless of your gender or orientation. Anal play pleasure is determined by preference only, so it’s anyone’s game if they want to go Greek.
Some people like it rough – and there’s nothing wrong with that! When it comes to porn though, rough sex is something we often feel conflicted about. We enjoy it, but did the performers enjoy making it? Is it okay to like something that looks different from what’s stereotypically “normal?”
Fantasizing about having sex as someone else, or with someone else other than your partner, is nothing new. Fantasy fuels reality, and without it we’d all be pretty bored– and boring, for that matter.
In fact, role-play can be one of the best ways to spice up your bedroom life. Think about it– after a grueling week full of kids, work, school and dinner, the thought of changing your name and moving to a different area code sounds pretty appealing. Of course, you aren’t going to uproot your life and ditch your family, but role-play lets you take a little break from the pangs of reality.
In the romantic comedy Friends with Benefits, Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake make the proverbial “Friends with Benefits” (FWB) relationship look easy. What’s not to like about having no-strings-attached sex with someone who you respect, trust, and who makes you feel safe? And they have the added bonus of their “casual sex” arrangement resulting in true love. Well, I’m here to offer you an anecdote from my life, which happens not to mesh with the Hollywood version of FWB. After losing a friend and confidante to casual sex, I have gained insight on what NOT to do when navigating a “friends with benefits” relationship.
How I went from the “Cool Girl” to the Crazy Bitch Crying Alone in a Bathroom Stall.
We all remember Kelly Clarkson circa 2010: the nose piercing, the intense eyeliner, the ripped baggy jeans. She was every middle to high schooler’s idol (including mine). So of course– after her female-empowering single, “Miss Independent,” I promised myself that I would never have a serious boyfriend.
Fast forward to 2017 and that same girl who sang the words “miss keep your distance, miss unafraid, miss out of my way” is happily married with two children. In parallel, the same girl who promised to never have a serious boyfriend now lives with a boy she is madly in love with.