5 Sexy Ways to Celebrate Valentine’s Day (That Don’t Cost a Thing)

tumblr_nhm5szkh1t1tsnl0do1_500Let’s play a little Valentine’s Day fantasy game, shall we? Don’t worry; this will be super easy and fun.

Here’s how to play: Relax your body… take a deep, deep inhale… let it all out with a sigh. Take a few more breaths until you feel yourself getting languid and relaxed. Now start to imagine your ultimate Valentine’s Day date.

Let’s fast-forward through the dinner and champagne, the eating too much candy or hiding disappointment that someone forgot you don’t actually like red roses. Instead, focus on all the ways your lover makes you feel. Picture your bodies entwined, kissing, maybe playing a little rough before lightly brushing your fingertips over their body. Now hold on to this thought—no, hold on to this feeling—because this is how you plan the ultimate Valentine’s Day.

When you get right down to it, Valentine’s Day is so much more than words in a Hallmark card—it’s about that warm tingly feeling you get for a special someone. And while a sparkling trinket, ample bouquet, or a box of Godiva can inspire some good feelings, they pale in comparison to the sensations of love, passion… Oh, and super hot sex, of course.

Every year, people collectively spend about $20 Billion on Valentine’s Day. They go all out on fancy gifts and pricey dinners, and end up resenting the holiday—or, more specifically, the dent it left in their bank account. This year we’re challenging you to celebrate love in a way that doesn’t break the bank. In fact, it won’t cost a thing.

Instead of focusing on presents, dinner, or expensive event tickets, we’re focusing on all the feels. Inspired by the five senses, we have a titillating list to help you and your lover have a very passionate holiday.


When we think of V-Day aromas, flowers are the first to come to mind—but did you know that the cost of red roses could nearly double the day of? Skip the supply and demand racket, and take in a big ole’ whiff of your partner instead. I know, bear with me…

Making a point to notice what your lover smells like will likely result in a nearly euphoric, all-over body feeling. The reason? You’re inhaling their unique pheromones. Pheromones are sort of like a person’s scent fingerprint, meaning everyone has their own. Plus, they act as a subtle chemical concoction that can trigger your body to respond in all sorts of cool ways. From gently calming your nerves to revving up your sexual desire, your lover’s pheromones can be very potent. Now that’s a gift that keeps on giving…


The skin is not only the biggest organ, but is also, surprisingly, one of the sexiest. Even better, there are endless ways to tantalize it! Since it’s Valentine’s Day, why not spoil every inch of your partner with a night of sensation play?

The human body is riddled with nerve endings just waiting to be tickled, teased, spanked and pleased, so don’t be afraid to provide your lover with an array of different sensations. A full body massage is a classic, but there are so many more erotic ways to get handsy. But first, to really heighten their sensitivity, but out your trusty Midnight Lace blindfold (if you don’t have one, no worries! A silk tie will work, too)! With one sense taken away, the rest will be on overdrive, making every caress exponentially more pleasurable. Use a feather tickler, a silk scarf or even a pearl necklace to glide over your partner’s naked body, mixing up your movements to keep their senses on edge. For the ultimate in hands-on experience, ask your partner how they like to be touched and then watch how their body responds as you do what they’ve described.


You know that look on someone’s face when they just want ravage you? There’s really no better feeling. Having their eyes roam every part of your body, filled with lust as they take you in… Well, I’m getting hot just thinking about it.

Hunger is a primal need, as is sex, so it makes sense that the two would inspire equal feelings of desire and passion. To entice and excite this sexual hunger in your partner, give the gift of taste by turning yourself into the main course. If you’re feeling adventurous (or ambitious), you can adorn yourself in sushi, create the perfect full-body dessert spread, line yourself with McDonald’s dipping sauces and chicken nuggets—the possibilities are endless! Or you can try something a bit easier to clean up, like a little System JO Crème Brûleé flavored lubricant! Squeeze a couple drops on all the sweet spots you want licked, sucked and enjoyed. Then treat your partner to the same. Skip the coy conversation hearts and tell your Valentine that this year, all you want to feast on is them… and you’re getting very hungry.


Whether you’re more of a voyeur, an exhibitionist, or you have no idea what those words mean, one thing’s for sure—you know what it’s like to feel hot and bothered at the mere sight of your partner’s body. So to elevate this already amazing gift of watching and/or being watched (but not touched; not just yet), take Valentine’s night as your opportunity to put on a performance.

If you’re no stranger to lingerie, take it up a notch with a pair of your sexiest shoes or put on a naughty costume that leaves little to the imagination, and treat your partner to a sensual striptease. If you love to watch, tell your partner exactly what you’d like to see—think Jamie Lee Curtis in True Lies. And don’t forget to play around with the bedroom scene, as well. A candlelight ambiance or a well placed mirror by the bed can enhance the entire experience, so you can lay back and enjoy the show.


It’s just like Missy Elliot says, “Music makes you lose control”. And Valentine’s Day is by far the best day to turn up the volume on your sexy self. You could hit the dance floor (aka your living room coffee table) and do some literal dancing. Or better yet, you could move to the music in the throes of passion.

Make a sexy playlist that sets the tone of a night filled with passion—one that will hopefully harmonize well with a symphony of orgasms. Cultivate the vibe with songs from The XX, Rhye, or maybe even some Marvin Gaye; you know which tracks will turn you on, help you relax and make you feel confident and totally sensuous. Feel the music in your body and use it to set the rhythm of your every kiss and caress. Maybe even challenge yourself to make your lovin’ last for the whole playlist… After all, tonight could be the perfect night to break out the Promescent and keep the passion going all night long!


The best things in life are free, but it’s easy to forget that truism. It’s no wonder a day like Valentine’s Day can quickly move from sweet to excessive, when we’re so dazzled with the promise of shiny presents and Instagram-worthy locales. The truth is, this day is so much greater than its $20 billion dollar price tag; a day to celebrate love. What better way to do that than by focusing on the gifts we’ve got, and what we already have to give? So take it slow, and take it all in: touch, taste, listen, smell and look at your partner. Really experience them. Then tell me all of that isn’t worth celebrating.

Have the best Valentine’s Day ever!

Stephanie Salyers is a writer and producer living in Los Angeles. Though she now works mostly in pop-culture and entertainment, she began her career as a sex educator, writing and conducting seminars for thousands of people across the U.S. For Stephanie, writing with the Sex with Emily team gives her the best of both worlds! For more from Stephanie, follow her on Instagram & Twitter… 

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