Ask Emily: How Do I Date As A Single Mom?
I’m a single mom and my daughter is 2 years old.
I’ve tried online dating apps, but the guys back off after a couple of days. Do guys not want to date single mothers?I’ve lost hope in finding a relationship. Please help me, Emily!
First of all, Happy Mother’s Day! I think it’s awesome that you’re a mom, and it’s also great that you want to start dating again. Having a child doesn’t mean you’ll never find love again, so don’t lose hope!
It’s true, there are some men—especially of the younger variety—who aren’t ready to date a woman who is also a mom. However, there are plenty of men out there who won’t be phased by it, and will be more than happy to embrace the fact that you’re a parent.
Here are a few tips to ease you back into the dating pool:
Do be upfront. It’s obviously important to let the person you’re dating know that you have a daughter well before things get serious. Being a mom is obviously your focus, but that doesn’t mean your daughter has to dominate all of your conversations and activities. Always take the time to get to know someone before you introduce them to your child until you know you want to keep them around.
Don’t forget that you’re still a woman. Sure, being a mom is one of the biggest roles you could have in life, but that doesn’t mean you’ve suddenly lost your needs or desires. Channel the person you were before your daughter came along, and be your confident, sexy self.
Do tell your friends and family to be set you up. Let your friends or family be your wingmen. They can be the ones to let your future date know you have a kid, giving that person the chance to decide whether or not they can handle it before you even meet.
Happy Mother’s Day!
Learn more about dating as a single mom in my article in Glamour’s Smitten column, “HOW TO DATE AS A SINGLE MOM”