4 Ways to Ask Dirty Questions Tonight

dirty questions blog sex with emilyCosmopolitan interviewed me about the dirty questions you should be asking in bed, and I want to share all the juicy details with you.

Here are some of my favorite dirty questions to help take your bedroom behavior up a notch. Because asking the right dirty questions to your partner is an easy way to not only enhance intimacy in a relationship, but also expand your existing sexual repertoire.

And the best part? These dirty questions work both ways, so here’s hoping your partner is a quick learner…


1- Play ‘Would You Rather?’ 

The kids game ‘Would you rather?’ can easily be turned into a sexy game allowing you both to explore your sexual boundaries and understand each others wants and desires.

The answers are fun but also very revealing about each partners’ attitude towards sex and relationships. For example:

1- Would you rather be blindfolded or blindfold me? 

This is a way to test how your partner feels about letting go during sex. Be sure to have a blindfold handy if they say yes…

2- Would you rather have sex while someone is watching you, or would you want to watch a couple have sex in front of you? 

This is a fast track way of finding out if your partner is a voyeur or an exhibitionist. Plan accordingly!

3- Would you rather orgasm while I’m performing oral or during intercourse? 

This is one way to find out how important oral sex is to your partner. Something you might not want to slack on, depending on the answer. How your partner answers would be telling of how they feel about orgasms. Do they want to let go and have you perform on them or would they rather have the one-on-one, eye-to-eye connection that comes with intercourse?

4- Would you rather try out kinkier sex ideas or have more sensual romantic sex? 

Sure, some of us like a little of everything. A spanking one day and staring into each other’s eyes and stroking their face another day. Is your partner vanilla or kinky? The truth will be revealed.


2- Dig Deep During Dirty Talk 

Asking your partner questions about their preferences and desires will help you pleasure him or her more during sex. Here are some suggestions to get started.

1- What was your high school sex fantasy? 

Since they aren’t in high school anymore, this question will get them to talk more freely about their fantasies. They can always blame their ‘High School self’ for a bizarre fantasy. Also, it will get them thinking about all the sexual frustration they had in high school and how they can finally realize their fantasies with you.

2- What does it feel like when you orgasm? 

This makes your partner think about how wonderful it feels to orgasm. The feeling is indescribable, so they’ll probably want to have one ASAP to give you an accurate description of what it feels like. Grab some popcorn and watch the show. 

3- Is it okay if I go down on you right now? 

This is extremely sexy because you’re asking them if it’s okay to do something they’re dying for you to do. By asking them if it’s okay you’re showing them just how much you want to please them. Consent is sexy ya’ll.


3- Play “Truth or Dare” 

Truth or Dare dirty questions are also a great way to learn more about your partner and ensure you get it on at the same time. Here are some examples:

Truth: What kind of foreplay would you like to try next time we’re in bed?

Truth: What’s some dirty talk that you’ve always wanted to say to me in bed (or be said to you)?

Dare: Eat a piece of fruit (peaches are always a sexy favorite) in the most sensual way possible.


4- To ease into some dirty questions, try one (or several) of these classics: 

-What’s your favorite position?

Where have you always wanted to have sex, but are scared to?

-What’s your favorite body part other than your genitals?

-Would you rather I kiss you softly or more roughly?

-Do you prefer me to undress you or do you like to undress yourself?

-What’s your most memorable sexual experience we’ve had together and why?

-What’s a fantasy you’ve never shared and would like to try?

Okay enough reading, go ask some dirty questions! 




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