Does Penis Size Really Matter?

Does penis size matter blog sex with emily
Does penis size matter blog sex with emily

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Of all the questions that swirl around the minds of men, one of the most common tends to be “am I normal?”

You know, down there.

The world is obsessed with penis size. It’s hardly a secret. 

Between the pills, pumps, stretch techniques and now surgeries hitting the market these days, many men feel inundated and confused as the penis facts.

With elements of self-esteem, pop-culture and self-consciousness all playing their part, it can get complicated, no doubt.

But when happy, healthy sex lives are the priority we value most, many people have a burning question. Does penis size matter?



When penis size takes the spotlight, it’s typically determining the average length that gets the most attention. Most research has shown it to be around 3.5 inches when flaccid and 5.1 to 5.6 inches when erect. However, girth is an important part of the equation too.

In fact, for those who cite size as important, it’s often girth they care most about anyway. Since it can increase stimulation and rub against the clitoris more during sex, some think bulk makes the experience more satisfying. Since the average penis circumference is 3.5 to 3.9 inches when flaccid, expanding to about 4.7 inches when hard, one can definitely imagine the difference it potentially makes.



From Ancient Greece and the Renaissance, to time as we know it today, the “ideal” penis size has experienced some fascinating fluctuation. You have Greek plays that featured enlarged penises as punishments, followed by statues like Michelangelo’s David that had surprisingly small penises, yet large scrotums. This implied great potency, which was most valued at the time. So, the length of its sidekick (seen as only good for injection) wasn’t nearly as coveted as the wealth of sperm itself.


Although, once porn came around in the mid- to late-1800s thanks to photography and motion pictures, the game was officially changed. Because it was mainly used as a tool for masturbation, porn became all about erections. Like most things pumped and primed for debuting onscreen: bigger was always better! Which leaves us where we are today.



Before we get much farther, let’s first distinguish fact from fiction when it comes to myths of the male member. Despite tales of hand size, foot size, race or culture correlating to how large or small it may be, research over the years has found little evidence to support these claims up.

On the other hand, what they do know is that one’s flaccid size doesn’t really mean anything. In reality, smaller flaccid penises can (and often do) grow more than their larger-starting counterparts when erect. So there might be something to be said for “growers” versus “showers”. 




Of course, everyone has their own preference when it comes to being intimate. But the thing about penis size is that the only people who seem to really care are those who have them. Which is understandable…to an extent.

Just like there’s more to a woman than her body, there’s a lot more to any penis-haver than their equipment. Even though it’s easy to see how a lot of people might think that having a “small” penis translates to sexual inadequacy, the fact is most gals greatly disagree.

It’s not just about the schlong, but the person attached to it, too. Sex includes so much more than intercourse alone. So we concur that it’s not so much a penis’s size that matters, but knowing how to use it.

Not to mention,  the average vagina is about 4 to 7 inches deep! So, too large of a penis can also start to lose its perks once a partner comes into the mix. Sex can get painful, you have to be mindful of shallow positions and, as a result, are left needing to lean a lot on foreplay. Which is not a bad thing (we love foreplay), but it goes to show a big dick can be limiting, after all.

In the grand scheme of things, we often have warped images of ourselves. So don’t let insecurity sabotage your potential for having confident, fulfilling and overwhelmingly hot sex.


If you want to please your partner, the answer is simple. Just ask them what they enjoy, and how you can help them have the best time ever. As Emily always says, “communication is lubrication”, so stop worrying about your peen and get talking! 


So here’s our PSA to all the penis owners out there. No matter how large, small, curved or anything else you may think your penis is, we love them just the way they are. 



Alex Anderson is an LA-based lifestyle designer proactively raging against the cultural grain. By day she works in television production, and by night enjoys writing, sewing and seeking guidance from the stars. She also finally has an all black kitty named “Cher.” You can follow her website and on Instagram!
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