Everything Butt Anal Play

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By Anna Sudit

Let’s get right to the point– anal play is awesome.

Of course, it’s not for everyone, but if you clicked on this article, then butt stuff might just be the right stuff for you.

Plus, you don’t have to have anal sex to enjoy some backdoor fun.

The anus boasts an abundance of nerve endings, making it a lovely little spot to lick, massage and penetrate, regardless of your gender or orientation. Anal play pleasure is determined by preference only, so it’s anyone’s game if they want to go Greek.

Here you will find some of the most fun things you can do with you and your partner’s bum to integrate into anal play your sex life. Anal play is a great way to work towards anal sex, but it’s also perfect on its own or paired with your standard intercourse.  


Talk to It

While anal might not be as taboo as it once was, your anus might not know that. Meaning, it can still be rather shy and uptight about the whole thing. So whether it’s some reassuring “You got this!” self-talk, or soothing encouragement to your partner, say it out loud to help the body relax. If you and your partner have never tried any kind of anal play, talk about it in advance.

You can be flirty and playful about it, but still, be clear about what you want to do or have done to you. Then back in the bedroom, keep the verbal check-ins and encouragement going. Ask periodically “does this feel good for you?” or “do you like that?” and in turn, if your partner strikes the wrong chord, make it known. Also, don’t be afraid to speak on behalf of your anus and yell something like “Oh yes, yes, yes!”. Communication is key to good sex, especially when there are butts involved. 


Lube it Up

The anus does many amazing things, but self-lubrication is NOT one of them. To get the glide that will make finger, toy, or penile penetration feel amazing, you will need some lube. You might be wondering if saliva will work as a lubricant and the answer to that is a resounding no. Saliva dries quickly and is not generally comfortable. It’s best to use an anal specific lube if you can.

pjur has several incredible options, and both their water-based or silicone formulas work optimally. Their anal formulas have a thicker viscosity helping them to last longer and give a more cushioned feel. A warming lube can also feel good, but stay away from any anal product that has numbing agents. You want to be able to feel any pain or discomfort so you know to stop what you’re doing immediately.


Toss That Salad

When they say “it’s better to give than to receive,” it’s totally possible they’re not talking about rim jobs. Because when it comes to anal licking, if you can be on the receiving end, you’ll be having a very good day. But giving that kind of pleasure is also a fantastic reward. If you’re new to anilingus or worried it’s “gross” (it’s not), hop in the shower beforehand and suds up your bottom. You can even take this shower with your partner and make lathering part of the foreplay– just make sure you rinse well.

Starting with oral sex on the vagina or penis before working around to the back is a great way to implement anal licking. Once you get started, alternate between full laps with a flattened tongue, and thrusting the tip of your tongue against the anus in a penetrative form. Licking in circles around the anus, quick flicks, and other creative movements will make the experience more pleasurable for both the giver and receiver. The more you both get into enjoying yourselves, the more your partner will enjoy seeing your delight ignite.


Can’t Stop the P Spot

As stated earlier, we all have sensitive nerve endings in the anus and rectum. However, we do not all possess the enviable “p-spot” which is the male prostate gland. It is considered to be comparable to a woman’s g-spot, in that it can lead to tremendous orgasms. The prostate gland is about 2 to 3 inches inside a man’s rectum toward the base of the penis.

So if you’re using your lubricated finger to stimulate his p-spot, start with a circular massage around the entrance and once you work your way in, press your finger against the walnut-shaped gland. You can also use a prostate-stimulating toy like the Ditto by WeVibe. It vibrates gently while stimulating the p-spot and can lead to seriously explosive orgasms.  


Perfectly Pegged

Now that you know the butt is no longer taboo– and that both men and women reap the benefits of anal stimulation– it’s time to talk pegging. Pegging is when a woman dons a strap on toy and penetrates her partner’s anus. Follow the same principles as any healthy anal sexual activity, be sure to communicate and lubricate.

Again, you’ll want to start with massaging the anus and maybe start with inserting a finger or an anal toy, like the Aneros Eupho Syn. If you use a plug, always make sure to use one with a flared base so it doesn’t get lost in the cavernous wonder that is the rectum. If you lose a toy in a boy, y’all will have no choice but to go to the ER. An easy way to play with pegging is with a strap on set like the Broad City Pegasus Pegging Kit


Cleanliness is Sexiness

The biggest fear people seem to have when it comes to anal play is that there may be fecal matter. The answer is most likely yes, there will be. Some. 


But it’s perfectly normal and easy to clean up. You can use soap and water, but for cleaning anal toys, we suggest first wiping them down and then putting them in a UVee cleaning and storage case so that you can rest assured they are sanitized for your next anal romp.




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