From Kinky Beginnings to Happy Endings: A History of Kink

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sex-art-indiaWhen we hear the word ‘kinky,’ we tend to let our minds fall deep into the gutter of the possibilities this word can bring to the bedroom. Getting intimate with someone considered to be on the kinkier side means you most likely won’t be having your run of the mill sexual experience.

Whether you’re aware of where you land on the scale or not, we all have our own level of kink. Maybe you’re into handcuffs, having sex in remote locations, or you like taking a literalness to playing with fire; the list goes on forever. And, why these particular additions or ideas make us unable to control our urges may be indescribable, a mystery even to yourself. But hey, whatever works, right?

As the years go by, we as a society are opening up about our sexuality; we’re talking about it more, asking more questions, exploring new realms and chasing new experiences. But despite the fact that it’s been a part of humanity since the beginning of time (as in, we literally would not exist without it) sex has not always been a welcoming subject in the public eye. In fact, if you believe the stories, sex has been downright dirty since roughly 2010.

Still, just because people used to be more modest about their bedroom activities in years prior doesn’t mean there wasn’t a sex circus going on behind closed doors. Kink is NOT a new concept. In fact, certain alternative sex acts go all the way back to when our want for pleasure overcame our animalistic instincts for sex.

If you’ve ever wondered where certain kinky sex facts began and how they’ve progressed, here’s a look back at kink through the ages..

 

BDSM B.C.

egypt bdsmThis popular area of kink stems all the way back to the ancient civilizations of Egypt, Greece, and Rome, where sex was a largely popular topic. Paintings, pottery, and sculptures have depicted whipping, hair pulling, and bondage. Whether it was telling a truthful story or was symbolic in myth for the gods, these actions carried on long after these incredible civilizations ceased to exist. There is no doubt that through the centuries, the world of BDSM has changed, progressing and adapting as technology and imagination has allowed us to grow, but looking back, it is clear that we can thank these wondrous cultures for originating this sexy act.

 

sex outdoorsColonial Exhibitionism:

In U.S. History class, we learn about the original colonies, how they worked, how they began and grew into the states of today. Rarely, however, do you hear about the sex life of these early settlers. I’m sure upon hearing the word “puritan,” most of our minds don’t go straight to kinky thoughts. In fact, that would be the last word that would come to my mind. Surprisingly enough, these heavily religious colonizers loved to get it on at all times of day– especially in public areas. That’s right, what seems to have been edited out of our textbooks was their insatiable lust for sex outdoors. Maybe it was due to the lack of privacy these people had, but whether it was from circumstance or not, the Puritans could regularly be caught romping in open fields and bushes, or saying “to hell with it,” and getting it on in a room full of people.

 

victorian vibratorsVictorian Vibrators:

How many times has your doctor prescribed you an orgasm? I’m guessing the answer is never. Back in the Victorian ages, however, this is exactly the remedy you’d expect if you were a woman experiencing so-called hysteria, (better known today as menstruation). The vibrators we know and love today for self-pleasure and otherwise were once instruments of medicine used by professional doctors. Because in this time period (and even in some cases today,) women enjoying sex had quite the nasty stigma surrounding it, many of the fairer sex were left sexually frustrated. The only cure was to make a doctor’s appointment for a “quick fix,” to end the “hysterics.” These magical orgasm givers switched from professional to at-home use at the beginning of the 1900s, but disappeared in the United States in the ‘20s due to their presence in pornography. It wasn’t until the ‘60s that vibrators made a comeback. So, although vibrators didn’t start off being kinky, they sure ended up that way.

 

hangingTaking Your Own Breath Away:

If you’ve ever held your breath when you’re about to orgasm, you know how crazy a feeling it can be. For some, there’s nothing more exhilarating than when their partner does some light to moderate choking during sex; for others, they enjoy doing it to themselves during masturbation. This little kink is known as auto-erotic asphyxiation, and believe it or not, comes all the way from the 17th century. This little kinky action was also considered a remedy for a sexual ailment, but for men this time: erectile dysfunction. What was the correlation? Apparently, during hangings, the public’s gaze tended to drift downward for one last crotch shot. During this gaze, many noticed that the men being strangled to death by a rope totally popped boners before letting out their final breaths. So, maybe the method wasn’t so successful at curing ED, but it led to a very sensational kinky way to enjoy your orgasm.

 

swingingPre-War Swinging & Polyamory:

Not everyone likes to stay within the confines of a monogamous relationship, some like to spice things up by swapping partners, finding a third to join the love, or having multiple partners at once. This practice, although evolved from what it once was, can be dated back to the 16th century, where it is was more ritual than a way to turn someone on. The more modern-day type of swinging and polyamory however, saw its fastest momentum in the United States during WWII and the ‘60s. Yes, the sexual revolution of free love and growth of contraception added to the appeal of this lifestyle, but according to author Terry Gould, it began with air pilots and their wives. Air pilots during the war, while usually being a close-knit group, had high risks of death. The ones that went off to battle tasked the others with taking care of their wives if anything should happen overseas. Overtime, swinging seemed to die down after the perils of war were over and the free love movement lost some of its heat, but it has seen a rise again since the ‘90s. Now, instead of someone’s dying wish, it helps couples keep things new and exciting in the bedroom.

 

It may be 2016, and sex may be approaching the downhill slope away from taboo, but the sexual kinks and practices of today are really adaptations from the kinks of yesteryear. Who’s to say what kink may look like hundreds of years from now? Would you be able to handle it? Would I? There’s no way to know for sure, so instead of wondering what might be, appreciate what once was and focus on your kinky self now!

 

 

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2 Discussion to this post

  1. Prudy says:

    That takes us up to the next level. Great pognsti.

  2. TrinaVenit says:

    Youre ridiculously cute. Nice meeting you at Todd Garners party. XX, Trina Venit

    You may not be a nomad but you are a artist. Loving your post on the UV revolution.

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