Geeks Get the Girl: Why Nerdy Guys Are the World’s Untapped Resource

reg_1024.SuperBowl.ms.013113Over the past few years, there has been a noticeable rise of a new breed of guy. This new type of guy does not “GTL”. He does not have frosted tips in his hair. And he does not roll around in a pick-up that has been lifted into the monster truck realms of douchery.

I’m talking about the guys that are intelligent, resourceful and clever. They may not be the sharpest dressers or the smoothest dudes out there, but they are passionate and approachable. They are the guys that our high school stereotypes have reinforced in our brains as nerds, and as a group, their dating stock is rising by the minute. To me, this raises an interesting dating question: Are we missing out by overlooking the “geeks”?

When I was 14, I received an intriguing piece of advice from a woman I often babysat for. We had been talking about boys in my life (there were none) and she cautioned me against chasing after the stereotypical bad boy.

“Take my advice,” she said, “and end up with a nerdy guy. They’re sweet, they treat you right, and they grow up to have good jobs and be excellent fathers.”

I ignored her, of course, but lately I have started to feel like she was on to something. Don’t get me wrong, that hot guy from the gym is nice to look at, but I can only discuss the benefits of protein powder for so long before my eyes start to glaze over. So I did a little research, talked to some friends, and asked around about the practical benefits of dating geeks. In the end, I came up with some pretty good reasons to give that guy you wrote off as “too bookish” another glance..

1. Smart guys are problem solvers

If you have a problem, chances are the nerd in your life will have a solution- if not, he will work overtime trying to find one. Also, these guys are generally super tech-savvy! If your laptop freezes, your iPod won’t update, or you can’t get the time to change on your car’s display, he’s going to be there to help. Not only that, he will probably enjoy being able to use his expertise to fix things for you and make your day better.

2. They do grow up to have good jobs

Say what you will about nerdy dudes, but they are an enthusiastic and motivated bunch. Most smart guys are ‘smart’ for a reason: They’re well-educated, and actually want to put that education to good use! They have awesome ideas, goals and ambitions, which makes them less likely to end up as 45-year-old bartenders who live with their parents. This isn’t a money thing, it’s a future planning thing: You want a guy who has one.

3. Nerdy guys don’t play games- well, not mind games, at least..

True, he may have the high score on Call of Duty, but all those gaming skills don’t carry on past the Playstation controller. You don’t have to worry about getting played by your nerdy crush- they just don’t do that. The majority of nerds missed that whole “being mean to girls makes them like you” thing that most guys learn in high school- What you see is what you get with them. As a result, they are generally sincere and well-meaning.

4. You’ll learn A LOT- and not just about USC’s starting defensive line

Smart guys know a lot about a wide variety of subjects, and love sharing their knowledge with those close to them. This means that you and your nerd will never run out of interesting things to talk about. Hello, intelligent conversations!

5. Nerds are constantly learning (and learning how to please you)

Due to their instinctive thirst for knowledge, nerdy dudes are constantly trying to increase their scope of expertise. This makes them especially motivated when it comes to intimate times- they are eager to please and happy to learn as much as they can to get the best results possible (i.e. multiple orgasms). Your geeky guy might turn you onto the array of toys they have at SexToy.com where you can find the most technological advanced pleasure toys around. The Harmony Wireless Wonder Black Yin is both an internal and external vibe that your partner can control via a wireless remote. It’s got multiple speeds and escalates between vibrating and pulsating. It’s sleek, super techy and will get you and your geek off.

6. Research shows that they are less selfish and more adventurous in bed

Back in 2009, researchers found that, in comparison to jocks, nerdy guys are way more concerned with their partner’s pleasure: An astonishing 4 out of 5 self-proclaimed IT nerds claimed that sex should be more about satisfying their partner than themselves! The study also found that overall, nerds were more adventurous in the sack, with about 80% reporting a willingness to use sex toys.

Bottom line: you want a man in your life who will value you and treat you respectfully. Because they have a bit more going on under the hood, the nerdy intellectual type is much more likely to love and appreciate you for who you really are. They care about  your thoughts, your feelings, your quirks and your goals. And hey, if you’re hot, I’m sure they’ll appreciate that too.. But it’s not the most important thing to them.

In essence, landing a nerdy guy might be the smartest decision you ever make. When you date a nerd, you are investing in a dude who is intelligent, interesting, laid-back and driven- not to mention attentive and wild in the sack! Sure you might have to dig a little deeper, but in my opinion, it will be 100% worth the effort.

 

 

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