From Kinky Beginnings to Happy Endings: A History of Kink

kink history blog sex with emilyWhen we hear the word ‘kink,’ we tend to let our minds fall deep into the gutter. Getting intimate with someone on the kinkier side means you most likely won’t be having your run of the mill sexual experience.

But kink is nothing new! People have been getting raunchy for millennia, and are showing no signs of stopping.

To set your dirty little mind at ease, here’s a brief history of all things kinky.


Kink is nothing new!

As time goes by, we as a society are opening up about our sexuality. We’re talking about it more, asking more questions, exploring new realms and chasing new experiences. But despite the fact that it’s been a part of humanity since the beginning of time (we literally would not exist without it) sex has not always been a welcome subject in public conversation. In fact, if you believe the stories, sex has been downright dirty since roughly 2010.

Still, just because people used to be more modest about their bedroom activities in the past, doesn’t mean there wasn’t a sex circus going on behind closed doors. Kink is NOT a new concept. In fact, certain alternative sex acts go all the way back to when our want for pleasure overcame our animalistic instincts for sex.

If you’ve ever wondered where certain kinky sex facts began and how they’ve progressed, here’s a look back at kink through the ages..



This popular area of kink stems all the way back to the ancient civilizations of Egypt, Greece, and Rome. Back then, sex was a largely popular topic. Paintings, pottery, and sculptures have depicted whipping, hair pulling, and bondage. 

egypt bdsm

Whether it was telling a truthful or symbolic story, these actions carried on long after these civilizations ceased to exist. There is no doubt that through the centuries, the world of BDSM has changed. It’s progressed and adapted as technology and imagination has allowed us to grow. But looking back, it is clear that we can thank these wondrous cultures for originating this sexy act.


Colonial Exhibitionism

In U.S. History class, we learn about the original colonies and how they grew into the United States of today. Rarely, however, do you hear about the sex life of these early settlers. I’m sure upon hearing the word “puritan,” most of our minds don’t go straight to kinky sex. In fact, that would be the last word that would come to my mind. 

sex outdoors

Surprisingly enough, these heavily religious colonizers loved to get it on at all times of day– especially in public. That’s right, what seems to have been edited out of our textbooks was their insatiable lust for sex outdoors. Maybe it was due to the lack of privacy, but the Puritans regularly romped in open fields and bushes. Sometimes they would just say “to hell with it,” and getting it on in a room full of people.


Victorian Vibrators

How many times has your doctor prescribed you an orgasm? I’m guessing the answer is never. Back in the Victorian ages, however, this is exactly the remedy you’d expect if you were a woman experiencing so-called hysteria (what they called menstruation). The vibrators we know and love today for self-pleasure and otherwise were once instruments of medicine used by professional doctors.

victorian vibrators

IN this time period, women enjoying sex had quite the nasty stigma. As a result, many of the fairer sex were left sexually frustrated. The only cure was to make a doctor’s appointment for a “quick fix,” to end the “hysterics.” These magical orgasm givers switched from professional to at-home use at the beginning of the 1900s. They then disappeared in the United States in the ‘20s due to their presence in pornography. It wasn’t until the ‘60s that vibrators made a comeback. So, although vibrators didn’t start off being kinky, they sure ended up that way.


Taking Your Own Breath Away

If you’ve ever held your breath when you’re about to orgasm, you know how crazy it can feel. For some, there’s nothing more exhilarating than some light choking during sex. For others, they enjoy doing it to themselves during masturbation. This little kink is known as auto-erotic asphyxiation, and believe it or not, comes all the way from the 17th century.

This little kinky action was also considered a remedy for a sexual ailment, but for men this time: erectile dysfunction. What was the correlation? Apparently, during hangings, the public’s gaze tended to drift downward for one last crotch shot. During this gaze, many noticed that the men being strangled to death by a rope totally popped boners before letting out their final breaths. So, maybe the method wasn’t so successful at curing ED, but it led to a very sensational kinky way to enjoy your orgasm.


Pre-War Swinging & Polyamory

Not everyone likes to stay within the confines of a monogamous relationship. Some like to spice things up by swapping partners, finding a third to join the love, or having multiple partners at once. This practice, although evolved from what it once was, can be dated back to the 16th century. Back then, it is was more ritual than a way to turn someone on. The modern-day type of swinging and polyamory however, saw its fastest momentum in the United States during WWII and the ‘60s. 


Yes, the sexual revolution of free love and growth of contraception added to the appeal of this lifestyle. But according to author Terry Gould, it began with air pilots and their wives. During the war, while usually being a close-knit group, air pilots had high risks of death. The ones that went off to battle tasked the others with taking care of their wives if anything should happen overseas. Over time, swinging seemed to die down after the perils of war were over. The free love movement lost some of its heat, but it has seen a rise again since the ‘90s. Now, instead of someone’s dying wish, it helps couples keep things new and exciting in the bedroom.


It may be 2019, and sex may be approaching the downhill slope away from taboo. But the sexual kinks and practices of today are really just adaptations from the kink of yesteryear. Who’s to say what kink may look like hundreds of years from now? Would you be able to handle it? Would I? There’s no way to know for sure, so instead of wondering what might be, appreciate what once was and focus on your kinky self now!





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