How Long Should I Wait to Have Sex?
I’ve been listening to your podcast for two years and can’t get enough! Your advice for others has always been spot-on, so now I’ve got a question of my own. I’ve recently started to get serious about dating, and I think I’m finally ready to be in a relationship. I’ve met a couple great guys so far, but there’s one issue I keep getting hung up on: sex. I love sex and am very open, but I think that’s the problem. In the past, I’ve gotten into bed with guys pretty quickly, and it’s never turned into anything real. How long do you recommend dating someone before you start having sex? —Dee
First and foremost, there is nothing wrong with having a strong sexual appetite. I love that you love sex! Sex is one of the greatest pleasures we get to enjoy in our lives, and it’s a critical component of any healthy relationship.
The truth is that there just aren’t any firm rules about when to first have sex with someone you’re dating. Many women wonder if there’s a magic formula, a specific number of dates, or a length of time they should wait before hopping into bed—but it just doesn’t exist.
Since there are no one-size-fits-all ”rules” in the world of love and sex, how do you know when it’s time to take your relationship to the next level? Read the full Glamour article to find out…