Take A LEAP Into Your Butt
Every leap year is an extra day to keep the seasons aligned with the calendar. But a lot of people see the leap year as an opportunity to try something new. A four year span can mean a lot to people – a graduation, an evolution, a brand new start. This year, it might be time to try something new. Something that we suggest is an act that seems to be bubbling in the social conscience – Butt Play.
Mentions of anal play in popular culture are at an all time high. Hit songs like Post To Be mention ‘eating the booty like groceries’. Pop culture icons, actors, and notable persons are talking about discovering the ecstasy of their asses. Anal stimulation is not only for the queer spectrum anymore. It is fully bleeding into the mainstream.
Anal sex has been around since Ancient times. Ancient Greek soldiers used olive oil as lubrication for anal play. Ancient Chinese drawings depict two men in coitus. There are even cave paintings that depict same sex stimulation.
SO HOW DO WE START?
Step one: Cleanliness is key. No one wants to go down on a soiled space. Whether it’s a tongue or a finger, cleanliness is next to godliness. Don’t be afraid to get all over the area with soap. If you’re a stickler on hygiene, consider using a dental dam or a condom on your finger (or fingers). Make sure your nails are well manicured. An accidental cut in or around the anus can be painful and is at risk for infection.
Plan ahead and think about your diet. If you know anal access may be looming in the future, eat light, and eat things that reduce constipation or diarrhea. Feeling gassy happens. A rogue toot is normal, but may tarnish the mood. If your body feels relaxed and ‘light’, your unconscious mind will be more open to backdoor play.
If you’re looking for more than knocking on the door, anal douching is an option. Whether you buy a douche from a drug store, order it on amazon, or use a bottle of filtered water, ‘cleaning out your pipes’ leads to less risk of surprise. Fiber supplements are also an option. Some practitioners of anal play are not fans of douching as it can dry out the area in the long term, and wash out necessary gut bacteria.
TAKING THE LEAP
Now it’s time to take the leap into your butt or your partners’ rosebud. Breathing is essential. The anus is a muscle accustomed to clenching. In order to release the muscle, one must be relaxed. Just like yoga and meditation, focus on your breathing. When confronted with sensation for the first time, clenching is normal. Start with just the tongue, or the pad of your index finger. Other foreplay helps relax the body – nipple play, caressing, stimulation of the clitoris or penis. The butt is just one crayon. It’s best to be experienced with the rest of the box.
SLOW AND STEADY WINS THE RACE
Once you’ve loosened the balloon knot, it’s NOT time to go HAM. Just like any other muscle, the anus must slowly be stretched or else there is danger or tearing or straining. But once you go slow, not only is the anus is a bundle of sensitive nerves, but the prostate is lying in wait to be milked.
If your partner has a prostate, and is lying on their back, insert your finger slowly into their bum. After it’s fully down to the palm of your hand, slowly pull out using a ‘come hither’ motion. This will stimulate the prostate. It’s normal for pre-ejaculate to be released with this motion. You’re on the right track.
WHAT DOES IT MEAN?
Just because either partner is enjoying butt play, doesn’t mean it’s an attack on one’s sexuality or masculinity. It’s a new discovery that ultimately should build more trust between partners. It’s an intimate act, and one’s partner is put in a vulnerable position, so listening to their wants and needs in the moment is of utmost importance.
Sometimes accidents happen. There’s no need to shame a partner for an involuntary response, or for making a mess. They didn’t intend to do so. And if you’re the one who asked for this intimate act, be the one to comfort and clean up the situation first. Don’t let a little spill be the reason to close oneself off from a new experience.
This leap year, take the plunge into the unknown, but just like any other cave dive, make sure to be prepared. An emotionally, mentally, and physically ready adventure with your partner is always more exciting than a shot in the dark.
Lumi Park is a writer, foodie, and Capricorn, from the cornfields of Ohio. He once won a NYC bartending award, a Brooklyn-wide comic book Trivia Bowl, and went to nationals two years in a year for the sport of jump roping. He is oddly not competitive.