What Your Mattress Could Mean for Your Sex Life

When setting the mood for sexy night in, there’s a countless supply of tantalizing tools to help with the job. But what’s the biggest, most unsuspecting culprit at risk of making or breaking a bedroom session?

To no surprise, it’s your mattress!

Although definitely not required, the fact is most sex happens inside the bedroom. Which means your mattress is ground zero for everything that goes down.

With so many factors at play when it comes to enjoyment of your playing ground itself, perhaps it’s time to examine just how compatible your sex life is with your bed.


Go Big Or Go Home

When talking about mattresses, we can agree size always matters. Not all of us may directly know the age-old struggle of getting down to business in a twin bed, but one cut to our SNL field team will quickly (and hilariously) outline the painfully awkward case.

But the good news is we’ve obviously wised up in our growing, as queen mattresses reign supreme as the most popularly purchased size among couples. And understandably so, since they provide an ample playing field for all your wildest positioning possibilities, yet don’t make you feel surrounded by Siberia when spooning the night away with a partner. The same can go for king-size as well if you and your boo enjoy even more space to sprawl.


Treat Yo’ Self (And Your Partner Too)

They say great sex starts with a great mattress, so also make it a point to get the most quality bang for your buck. Literally! When purchasing something we spend up to a third of our lives in, it’s best to save the bottom-shelf picks for happy hour. You want to make sure your intimate investment is something that’ll treat both you and your partner well, plus last a decent amount of time while at it.


Sensual Sabotage

Now when it comes to downfalls of a mattress, noise is often one of the first things people think of. Whether you live alone or with roommates, a bed that blows your coital cover can draw some not so wanted attention.

Of course headboards come in handy if you like to tie things up or go for a classically romantic look, but anyone who prefers to stay on the sneak may logically elect against them.

However, the classic box spring can become a prime bedroom offender as well! Depending on the type of floor, box springs and their frame can potentially slide away from the wall when the heat really turns up. Although not the biggest issue, it’s obviously not something we’d elect to deal with on the reg, so caster cups or a platform bed frame can each be solid solutions. 

Sound aside, responsiveness of your bed is another big thing to consider. If a mattress doesn’t adjust well to the body when lying down, it may feel like you’re sinking into quicksand. And since hasty shifts from one motion to another are a given when the night gets hot and heavy, it’s best to have a bed that rhythmically works for you, not against you.


Staying Calm, Cool And Clean

So when examining the conditions of our most intimate domain, cleanliness, of course, should be one of the biggest bedroom factors of all. But are we truly as tidy as we’d like to believe?

Most health experts recommend changing your sheets every one to two weeks. Considering we naturally expel about 26 gallons of sweat mid-sleep per year, that sounds like a pretty reasonable request. However, a recent study aired some pretty dirty laundry lurking among beds across the nation…

According to Mattress Advisor, Americans wait an average of 24 days before electing to wash or change their sheets. Men specifically clean them about every 30 days, and women every 19 days. Even further, it revealed single people usually swap them out every 37 days, and (not surprisingly) those in a relationship or married change them every 20 to 22 days.

But when it comes to hygienic habits after having sex, men rack up an average of almost 12 days before changing their sheets; whereas women usually wait about 4 days…and even less after a one-night stand. Speaking of sexual hygiene, if you’re someone who likes to keep their sex toys under the bed, while out of sight, it’s actually not the cleanest place to keep them. There’s dust and who knows what else lurking under there. So, I suggest getting a UVee so you can still have your sex toys close by and under the bed, but in a cleaner environment. 


So next time your instincts call for a revamping of vibes inside the bedroom, try taking a look at what’s been underneath your nose (and body) all along. While the “perfect” bed may be a feat to find, prioritizing which features mean the most to you can help make all the difference in maximizing pleasure within your sex life and beyond.


Alex Anderson is an LA-based lifestyle designer proactively raging against the cultural grain. By day she works in television production, and by night enjoys writing, sewing and seeking guidance from the stars. She also finally has an all black kitty named “Cher.” You can follow her website (www.alexjanderson.com) and on Instagram (@AJAndMore)!

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