New Sex Positions
How do you get your partner to try new sex positions? People email me this question all the time.
Well, the first thing you have to do is ask her. Communication is a lubrication and couples who actually talk about sex have better sex. It’s a fact.
Unfortunately much of the sex women have experienced is jackrabbit sex– the guy endlessly pumps away on top while the woman lies there dissatisfied.
For the record, jackrabbit sex doesn’t even come close to hitting women in the right places i.e. her clitoris. Women have been taught since they were young to prioritize the man’s pleasure and this has to change.
Tell her that you want to try new positions that you think will feel good for her, not just you.
While missionary position is all fine and dandy, many women have an easier time orgasming when they’re on top.
However, women often feel insecure about their body while taking the top position. They feel exposed and try to position themselves in the most flattering way even if it detracts from pleasure. Your job is to make her feel beautiful no matter if she’s elegantly arching her back or her legs are flailing over her head.
If you want to try new positions, take it slow and talk her through it. Ask her to put her legs on your shoulders or move her legs apart. It’s sexy when men give directions in bed.
If you aren’t sure what sex positions to try next, get my book Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight. All you have to do is open it up and flip to a random page. Ask her, “Why don’t we try this?” A beautiful illustration will show you how it’s done and you both can learn together by following the instructions. No matter how you go about it, it’s important to experience new positions so you don’t get stuck in the same old routine.
Image from my book, Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight