Obsessing Over Your Relationship May Ruin Your Sex Life
There may be relief for those that obsess over their relationship. It seems that people who constantly question whether or not their partner loves them, or whether or not they’ve found the person they’ll spend the rest of their lives with, may be suffering from something called relationship obsessive-compulsive disorder (ROCD).
Further, a new study shows that people who suffer from symptoms of ROCD are less likely to enjoy a satisfying sex life with their partner. Other symptoms of ROCD can include behaviors such as the constant reassessment of your relationship, questioning whether you love your partner or they love you, or obsessing on your partner’s physical flaws.
This connection isn’t all that shocking, ROCD can majorly affect the happiness an individual feels in their relationship, and as a result their sex life is affected as well.
These findings are helpful, however, because they could help in the treatment of individuals who suffer from sexual and relationship problems. There might be a quicker connection made between ROCD and other issues in relationships.
To explain ROCD further, it is a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder, which affects about 1% of individuals. Portions of those affected by OCD are also affected by ROCD. According to Steven Brodsky, a psychologist and clinical director at the OCD and Panic Center of New York and New Jersey, individuals who suffer from ROCD normally fit into two categories of obsessions: questioning whether you love your partner, or questioning whether your partner loves you.
Granted, some of these thoughts are normal in a relationship. It is normal to reassess your relationship from time to time. But when these thoughts become debilitating to your everyday life, such as work, then they may point towards ROCD.
For example, one patient who suffers from ROCD sais that although he loved the woman he was with, he obsessed over whether he would be happier with a woman he saw on the street or Facebook.
Needless to say, these relationships can be tough. They can get so rocky that “these relationships can often repeatedly break up and reunite multiple times a week” or month, according to Brodsky.
Treatment for ROCD is the same as treatment for OCD. Interestingly enough, couples therapy can aggravate the symptoms of ROCD even more. If a couple goes to therapy in order to uncover their issues, this can lead to a higher obsession for the individual suffering from ROCD.
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