Good Posture & Great Positions For Better Sex

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posture blog sex with emily

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When it comes to sex, one thing everyone wants to know is how to make it better. 

The funny thing is, sometimes those secrets to success can be a lot simpler than you might think.

Technique is everything. And today, that technique starts with your posture!




Let’s delve into the perks of posture! It turns out those etiquette lessons you suffered through in middle school might actually come in handy, after all.

Good posture is about keeping the muscles surrounding your spine balanced to provide equalized support throughout the body. By doing that, we’re apt to experience the obvious benefits like less pain and headaches, along with the not-so-obvious, like increased energy, core strength and lung capacity.

Having good posture is an all-around great idea! Hence its unsuspecting ties to something like sex!



So now that we’ve learned why posture affects our sensual satisfaction so much, it’s important to know what factors into choosing a bang-up position


What’s the Target?

First and foremost, you want to consider if there’s a particular type of stimulation you’re going for. If you’re looking for something that really packs a pleasure-punch for those with a vagina? Then typically, a clitoral-focused position is super effective. Looking to dabble with a new kind of sensation? Anal/p-spot concentration could do the trick. Every position is going to target one or two particular spots. So choose wisely based on which erogenous zones you want to explore. 


How Deep?

Closely related to type of stimulation is another key aspect: depth of penetration. Depending on the setup, certain positions allow for easier access into one another.

If you’re aiming to stimulate the g-spot or p-spot, then depth will definitely be on the agenda. So save yourself some trouble and choose an arrangement that naturally lends itself to what you need. Working smarter not harder, you know?


How Close?

You can also play around with things like how close you want to feel to each other (whether it’s through eye or body-to-body contact), who’s in control, and propensity for toys.

The intimacy level and power dynamic between you and your partner can greatly influence which position will work best. Think about what factors are most important to you, and choose your sexy stance from there.



Now that we’ve covered all the basic components of good sex posture, it’s time to move onto the field test! To guarantee spice in your next sesh between the sheets, here are a few positions that are particularly worth exploring:



This position is a grade-A test of posture at its finest. It is the exceptionally sensual Lotus position. One person sits on the couch, bed or any other flat, stable surface, and another straddles them to sit in their lap. The straddler wraps their legs around like a horny koala, commencing low and slow grinds that make you feel the power of every movement.

There’s tons of sexy eye contact and the straddler is in total control of how fast and deep things get. Good posture is a plus because you both have to keep your back straight to retain full control of that juicy lower body strength.



For another steamy position that brings new meaning to the term “hot yoga”, try out the Downward Dog. The receiver lays face down on the bed with a few pillows propping up their pelvis, while the penetrator lays the same way on top of them. After entering from behind, they have ample control of the speed and intensity. This makes slow, swirling thrusts super easy and extra enjoyable.



In pretty much any form, standing sex is another sultry testament to the perks of good posture. You always seen it in movies, but it’s totally doable in real life as well!

You just need to keep a straight back, feet planted firmly on the ground and have a hefty dose of upper body strength. There’s clearly no furniture required either, which makes it arguably one of the most freeing positions, too. 



Level up your sexcapade even further with the delectably dynamic Pinball Wizard position. The receiver lowers down into a partial bridge, while the penetrator gets on their knees, grabs hold of the partner’s thighs and enters.

This way, you can get primo clitoral stimulation, along with amazingly deep penetration when one leg (or both!) is propped up on your partner’s shoulders. Again, just remember to keep those back muscles balanced for the full, intoxicating effect.



For a sensual spin on classic missionary, you can opt for its far zestier counterpart – the Coital Alignment Technique. Begin in missionary pose with the person on top scooted a few inches higher than normal. Then with your bodies hovering over each other, the bottom locks their legs around the top partner. As the pelvises align, rock up and down instead of in and out to give the bottom partner the continuous clitoral stimulation they crave. And added bonus: it’s even said to boost the likelihood of orgasm that vulva-owners don’t always experience from penetration alone. 


Toys, lube and expert moves are great! But if your posture in the throes of passion is not on-point, then you could be doomed from the start. With just a little awareness of how to control your body and all the erotic effects that come with it, you can kick things up a notch by using this trick that’s hardly a trick at all. 


Alex Anderson is an LA-based lifestyle designer proactively raging against the cultural grain. By day she works in television production, and by night enjoys writing, sewing and seeking guidance from the stars. She also finally has an all black kitty named “Cher.” You can follow her website ( and on Instagram (@AJAndMore)!
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