Prostate Of The Union
2020 – a year of uncertainty, change and growth. It’s the new election cycle, a new decade, a health emergency, and an order to stay at home. But it can also be a time to try things that you may have been meaning to get to on your list. Whether that is trying a new hair style, or seeing if crop tops are ‘your thing’, it might be time to also try some new things on the sexual frontier. One of those could be prostate play.
WHY THE PROSTATE?
The prostate secretes fluid that nourishes and protects sperm. During ejaculation, the prostate squeezes this fluid into the urethra, and it’s expelled with sperm as semen. When the prostate is massaged, it can lead to a more powerful orgasm, and more intense sexual interplay. Here are some ways you can prostrate you or your partner’s prostate.
PREPARING THE AREA
After getting consent from your partner, it’s important to clean the area – this can be an erotic foreplay moment in the shower – use soap and water to clean the outside. Also consider your diet the 24-hours leading up to play time. Unexpected visitors from the back cavern can happen, but using a douche or an enema to clean out the cavity is a way to help ensure a spotless adventure.
PREPPING THE ENTRANCE
Start with other kinds of foreplay. Massaging the thighs and glutes, kissing down the body, and stimulating your partner’s intimate places. By relaxing your partner, it will ease entry.
Once your partner is relaxed, lube up one finger, either your index or middle finger, and begin gently caressing your partner’s exit hole. They may begin to clench up more, but continue to kiss and touch, and BREATHE. After your partner relaxes, you will feel the ring of muscle relax. Very gently (making sure your nails are short and debris free) insert the finger just up to the first knuckle.
Now is not the time to try and run through the entire house. Especially if this is the first time, the ring of muscle will clench around your fingertip. Continue to relax your partner. Very slowly move the tip of your finger in and out of your partner’s orifice, until you are able to slip the rest of your finger up to the hilt. Listen to your partner. If they need more lubrication, oblige them. If they’d like to stop for today, respect their wishes.
FIRING A WARNING SHOT
Once one finger is comfortable, try slowly inserting a second one. If you are face to face with your partner, turn your palm up with fingers extended while inside your partner. Slowly pull your fingers out in a come hither motion. You will garner a response from your partner because congratulations, you are massaging the prostate! Be aware however, if this is your partner’s first time, it may elicit an unexpected ejaculation. Congratulations, again!
Now comes the fun part. There is a litany of toys you can pull out of the closet (or order from goodvibes) to stimulate your partner’s warmed up prostate. An anal plug continuously stimulates the prostate, whereas a vibrating nub or anal plug will most likely reduce your partner to an over-stimulated puddle. If you and your partner have opposite sexual organs, try a small double-sided dildo at first. Anal beads are a great way to exert a back-and-forth permission based sexual experience – slowly pulling beads out creates an ebb and flow of pleasure in the moment.
Congratulations, you have graduated summa cum laude and are ready to try pegging. If you or your partner partake in strap-on sexual activity, now is the time to either have the roles reversed, or to show your partner what you got. Just remember – the anus is not as elastic as the vaginal canal. Lube is your friend, and it is good to have a safe word during anal sex.
It’s easy to get lost in the heat of the moment, and you want to ensure that both partners are okay with the size, shape, and speed you are dealing with. Using a dildo to stimulate your partner though is the kingpin of stimulating the prostate. Don’t be surprised if pre-ejaculate is expelled from the prostate during this time. Keep going. Check in with them. Your partner is probably enjoying it.
AIDING THE MOMENT
Sometimes some people need a little extra to help with the relaxation. Whether it’s a ginger or chamomile tea, a full body massage, oral stimulation of the anus, or even poppers, don’t be discouraged if at first you don’t succeed. Go on the journey with each other and try, try again.