While knowing how to please yourself might seem almost like a primitive skill that you’re supposed to be born with, for a lot of women it’s the opposite. In fact, many women reach adulthood believing that thinking, talking about or even exploring the wide world of masturbation is taboo.
Nobody wants to say they met their boo on a stupid dating app. For whatever reason, our culture still associates dating apps with desperation. But here’s the thing: sure, it’d be nice to meet people in person like the good old days when grandpa rode to school on a donkey and your friends actually looked at you instead of their phones when you had conversations, but those days are over. So get with the program, y’all. The survival of our species has always depended on adaptation and willingness to change.
As we celebrate Masturbation May, it’s important to recognize why self-pleasure is so important. Of course this month is all about loving yourself with the goal of an earth-shattering climax, but it’s also about recognizing that masturbation is a healthy and wonderful expression of your amazing sexual self. Masturbation May is also the perfect time to show your lover exactly what feels best for you and your body, and to see what makes your partner hot too. So let’s jump in the shower for our six hottest tips on how to get dirty with some good, clean, masturbation fun.
We here at Sex With Emily are noticing a trend: you love to talk about threesomes and swinging! We fully support an adventurous sex life, but there are some dos and don’ts to the ins and outs of bringing a stranger into the mix. On today’s show, Emily is joined by show-favorite, Menace, and the two are setting the record straight on all things sex, dating, and masturbation by answering your emails and taking your calls!
Welcome to Emily’s favorite month of the year! She and special guest Menace kick off May, the official Month of Masturbation, by taking your calls and getting to the heart of your issues and giving you a special challenge to make the most of this month’s theme.
Q: DEAR EMILY,
My boyfriend and I broke up about six months ago, but we’re still living together (we don’t want the expense of breaking our lease, and where we live is very seasonal so it’s hard to find new tenants). He ended things because he was going through some personal stuff and wanted to work on himself. The problem is that we never stopped having sex.
Things started up again casually, where it was just hot and random, but I’ve noticed that lately he has started to bring some feelings back into it and I am finding that I too still have feelings for him. He is very intimate, cupping my face, telling me that he loves me. Then going out with friends and acting single. He’s very back and forth about it. I’m totally confused.
I don’t know if this is normal, or maybe he still wants to be with me? Is it possible to have a “friend with benefits” with an ex?
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Having the courage to ask questions shows that you care about improving your life; whether it’s your love or sex life, you’ve identified something that just isn’t going right, and you want it to be better. On today’s show, Emily is answering all of your quandaries to help give you the knowledge you need for a life full of loving—both in and out of the bedroom.
When it comes to sex and dating, it can be hard to tell where you’ve gone wrong. You may think you’re speaking the language of love, but are you speaking the right one? On today’s show, Emily is giving her expert advice on common sex and dating dilemmas to get you headed in the right direction for great sex!
I was dating a guy who was great in bed. The first time we hooked up, he asked me what my fantasy was—I told him, we went with it and it was really hot. As we continued to date, he kept asking me what my fantasies were, so then I thought that the ones I had already shared weren’t hot enough. I started worrying about what he thought of me, and if I was too boring.
I realized that when I’m with someone, I focus on trying to be exciting, thinking more about what my partner might want rather than putting my needs and desires first. My question is, how can I focus more on myself and what I like without being selfish in bed?
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