I love you and your show, and I’ve had a great time testing out your tips for spicing things up with my boyfriend. Per your recommendation, we have recently been trying to work lube into our sexual routine, but stopped because I was really not enjoying it. It made a huge mess and got everywhere during foreplay, and I was very aware of it WHILE we were having sex. I also didn’t like the way it felt afterward—especially if we had sex during the day (because I would have to go somewhere after, and I would have lube all around my vagina).
I know you’re a huge fan of lube, and I want to love it. But I feel like there’s something I must be missing, because so far, I’m not getting the appeal. Were we just using too much? Is there another lube you can suggest that might be better? Thank you!
Sheridan, age 22 Continue Reading
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about eight months. We’ve spent a lot of time learning each other’s bodies, figuring out what turns us on and exploring new things together. In general, the sex is really hot. There’s just one issue in the bedroom: He doesn’t shut up! I know he gets really turned on by dirty talk so I’m working on getting better at it, but he takes it to a whole other level, asking “Do you love me? How much do you love me? Tell me how much you want this d—k!” over and over again. I have no idea how to respond to any of this in a sexy way. And when I don’t answer, he just keeps prodding me! It’s so distracting, it totally takes me out of the moment. It’s even making it hard for me to climax. How can I bring this up to him without offending him?
Love, Lauren, 24
I’m 24 years old and the guy I’m dating is my first sexual partner—so I’m a newbie at everything but I’m pretty open to learning and trying new things. I know he really wants me to give him a blow job, but I don’t know how! I have a ton of fear around it. I really want to try it, but I can’t get over that scared feeling I get when I think about doing it, partly because I don’t know what I’m doing but also because I want us both to enjoy the experience.
What can I do to get over the fear and become more comfortable with giving him a blow job? And how can I make it a good one?
I’m a 20-year-old girl from England. As far as I know, I’m completely straight and in love with my long-term boyfriend. (OK, there was one time that I hooked up with a girl, but I decided it’s just not for me.)
Here’s the thing: When I masturbate (and even sometimes when my boyfriend is going down on me), I think about girls having sex with girls. Mainly, I imagine situations where a girl is having lesbian sex for the first time. Am I normal?! Am I even straight? There are absolutely no issues with my boyfriend and I really don’t think I’m gay. Am I maybe bisexual? Am I alone?
Bi-Curious Britney in Britain
Hi Emily, My fiancé and I have a great relationship and one of our favorite things to do is travel. My question is, what are the rules for flying with sex toys? We fly a lot and have been talking about purchasing a few toys to bring with us on our adventures, we just haven’t been sure how to go about it. What toys travel well? What might get us busted and embarrassed in a long airport line?
For example, I’ve had my eye on the Magic Wand for a long time. This may sound silly, but I’m not sure if I can only fly with it in my checked bag or if I can carry it on with me. I checked online, but couldn’t find much on the TSA website (no big surprise there). Can you help us get more pleasure out of our adventures abroad?
I’ve been listening to your podcast for two years and can’t get enough! Your advice for others has always been spot-on, so now I’ve got a question of my own. I’ve recently started to get serious about dating, and I think I’m finally ready to be in a relationship. I’ve met a couple great guys so far, but there’s one issue I keep getting hung up on: sex. I love sex and am very open, but I think that’s the problem. In the past, I’ve gotten into bed with guys pretty quickly, and it’s never turned into anything real. How long do you recommend dating someone before you start having sex? —Dee
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and love him to bits. He’s great! The only thing that kinda gets me down is that he doesn’t last as long as he used to. He says that he’s just too turned on, which I guess I understand, but he doesn’t try to help me finish. What can I do to help him last longer? And how can I get him to understand that he should be helping ME orgasm too, not rolling over and passing out?
Thank you for your insight!
Miranda from Canada
Okay Miranda, this is a sensitive situation, and not entirely uncommon. Men’s stamina has a tendency to fluctuate over time, so I’m not concerned here—there are plenty of ways you can work together to help him last longer. What I’m more concerned about is the fact that he doesn’t seem to care about pleasing you first. Continue Reading
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