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BathSexyDear Emily,

I have a problem with masturbation — I can’t do it.

It’s not that I’m a prude about masturbation. Believe me, I have tried time and time again! I know what I’m supposed to do and I get how to do it, I’ve masturbated in front of a partner before and it was GREAT. But when it’s me by myself, I just can’t seem to get into it or even get to a place where it feels good. Since I’m doing the actual touching part the right way, I know it has to be something about my mindset. What am I doing wrong?

How can I help myself get in the mood for masturbation?

Sincerely,
Solo Sex Struggles

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blow partnerDear Emily,

I LOVE pleasing my man, but I’ve found it really hard to make him orgasm when I give him any form of oral. I wouldn’t say I’m an expert or anything, but I have honestly never had this problem before. I’ve asked him what I can do to improve but I think he’s even more inexperienced than I am. I really want to surprise him with the best oral of his life! How can I give him a blow job that will blow his mind? Continue Reading

article-2291280-188E2ECB000005DC-807_634x800“Dear Emily,

I recently started dating a guy (a great guy, actually!) and things are going really well. There’s only one problem… I’m afraid to have sex with him! We’ve been seeing each other for almost two months now and we still haven’t done the deed. It’s not that I’m not attracted to him or that I’m afraid he won’t respect me. The real reason is that I am pretty sure I’m bad in bed.

I’ve only been with two guys, and neither seemed to be that into the sex. One of them looked downright bored! I like this new guy a lot and would really like to wow him in the sack, but now I’m extremely self-conscious. What if we have sex and it’s terrible and he doesn’t want to date me anymore? I need help! How do I know if I’m terrible at sex? And more importantly, how can I fix it?

Sincerely,
BIB, 24

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Screen Shot 2015-11-12 at 11.59.12 AMHi Emily,

I have a concern about something that has been happening when my boyfriend and I have sex. When we are having a longer sex session (past 30 minutes) I’ve noticed that I tend to dry out, even though I was extremely wet a few minutes before. And what’s worse, it becomes extremely uncomfortable. Is it possible that I could run out of my own juices? I mean, I’m only 22! This has really been affecting my sex life, because I take a longer time to orgasm during intercourse, and my boyfriend usually takes a while also. Is this normal? What should I do?

 

Thanks,

Kate

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23ee19a9b887f4ee7af229e2977f6619Q: Dear Emily,

Thanks to you, I am now a woman with several sex toys. I have recently fallen in love with my Magic Wand vibrator, and it has totally changed things for me in that I can now not only orgasm, but have multiple orgasms! But now I’m wondering.. Is it bad that I only ever want to use my vibrator to masturbate? The things is, I’ve heard rumors about vibrators actually desensitizing the clitoris, and now I’m worried that I’m ruining my vagina! Is this true? Whenever I go back to using my hands, it takes SO long to get there and I’m not even sure if I’m climaxing. Has it already started? Am I addicted to my vibrator? Help!

Sincerely,
Vibrator Obsessed, 22

 

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“Dear Emily,

I’ve been in and “on and off” relationship for three years now that is currently on its way to being “off” again. I feel we’re just stuck in a cycle of break ups and make ups, and I don’t think that it’s doing either of us any good. I love him, but I don’t know if it’s a good idea to How many times do you try to make a relationship work before calling it quits?

Thank you,

Jane”

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0ab38cb90c6c2432daa4b06dc01c22ddDear Emily,

Lately I have found myself not that interested in sex, and I think I know why. My long-time boyfriend and I have very busy schedules, and we don’t have as much time as we used to in the bedroom. As a result, all of our sex sessions end up being what you might call “quickies”. He is totally happy to get in, get out and move on to the next thing, but these interactions just aren’t satisfying for me. So now when he brings up the idea of sex, I make excuses or try to get out of it.

I’ve tried explaining my feelings to him, but he just doesn’t get it. He thinks that I’m not interested in him sexually, but that’s not the case – I just feel like I need more! Am I being totally unreasonable? What can we do to make sex enjoyable again, for both of us?

Sincerely,

Sick of Quickies

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Q: Dear Emily,

I like to consider myself a fairly sexually educated girl, but I have NO idea what to do when it comes to being on top during sex. The few times I have tried it, I felt so awkward that it ended up killing the mood. Now I’m worried that my inexperience will be obvious to my next partner.. Are there any tips you can give me to help me get better at girl-on-top?

 

Thanks,

Angie

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Dear Emily,

I have a confession: I hate giving blow jobs.

The first and last real time that I tried going down on a guy, it was horrible. He smelled really bad down there, and when I tried to just power through it, he pushed my head down and I gagged. He lost his erection and we never hooked up again. Ever since then, I’ve avoided giving BJ’s at all costs.

Now, I’m with a really good guy who is so kind and loving to me. He has made it known that he really LOVES getting blow jobs (even more than sex!) and I really want to give him one, but I keep thinking back to that bad experience. How do I get over my oral sex fears and give him the amazing blow job he deserves?

Sincerely,

Amanda

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