Whether you’re male, female, single, gay or straight, you all have one thing in common.. You want to have mind-blowing sex. You want to please and be pleased. But here’s the thing: Before you can earn your black belt in bedroom acrobatics, you first must master the basics. I don’t care if you are a tantric sex master or a cunnilingual casanova; if you can twist yourself into a pretzel during oral but you can’t give a decent hand job, what’s the point?
So let’s not just talk about sex — Let’s talk the barenaked basics of having an amazing sex life. Let’s take things all the way back to the “hookup”. Picture your first-ever encounter with a new (but hopefully recurring) sex partner. Before they get to appreciate the portfolio of sex positions you’re hoarding at home base, you’ve got to wow them through 1st, 2nd and 3rd.
In honor of Back to Sex Basics month, it’s time to address that elephant in the room: Your sexual satisfaction.
People seem to think that improving something as monumental as your sex life can only be accomplished by BIG moves, GRAND gestures and HUGE commitments, which is probably why they don’t make them. But I’m going to let you in on a little secret: there is actually an alarmingly simple move that will not only make your sex life better by way of stronger and more frequent orgasms, but is also beneficial to your overall health. So what is this mysterious sex life-saver? A special little squeeze called the Kegel.
Kegel exercises are the internal and controlled contractions of your pelvic floor muscles. The best way to understand the feeling and location of these muscles is to restrict your flow when you’re peeing; the same muscles that contract to stop your stream are the ones you can strengthen with Kegel exercises. One of the best things about Kegels is that they can be done at any time or place discreetly – like while you’re waiting in the airport, sipping a latte, for example. Continue Reading
As someone who just recently put college in her rearview mirror (okay, it was two years ago, but still…) this time of year still hits me with a wave of nostalgia.
In grade school, September brought with it the memories of pencil boxes, crisp white notebook paper and the mandatory Lisa Frank trapper-keeper (don’t act like you don’t know what I’m talking about). Now, I can’t breathe in the crisp autumn air without picturing Orientation Week keg parties, late night dorm room hangouts and the sea of strangers that I would soon call my lovers and friends. Continue Reading