On today’s show, Emily is joined by social researcher & best-selling author Dr. Wednesday Martin to talk about her book, Untrue, – because we’ve got a lot of unlearning to do.
Orgasms: the climactic point of our sexual bouts, the light at the end of the tunnel, the eruption of pleasure that releases euphoric brain chemicals into our entire bodies.
While they do not necessarily have to be the goal every time we have sex, a life without them just doesn’t seem as fulfilling.
You know it, you love it, and (in reality) you can’t live without it. That’s right, the name of today’s game is all about antici…
Straight out of Dr. Frank-N-Furter’s mouth, the art of anticipation has been one of humanity’s most trending topics long before Twitter was ever hatched.
Teasing to please, suspenseful seduction– however you phrase it, there are countless ways to do it.
It used to be common knowledge that the sun revolved around the Earth, but thanks to science, we’ve learned how wrong that idea was.
A more common idea in today’s age is that men and women should take the same amount of time to orgasm. Sorry ladies and gents, but just like the sun doesn’t revolve around the Earth, science has shown us that men orgasm a lot quicker than women. The cool thing about science, though? You can always beat it… With more science! Continue Reading
Most of us try to make new years resolutions with every intention of following through. This is the year I stick to it! How many years have you said that? Now, how many years has it come true? Those answers probably weren’t the same. There is at least one resolution that’ll be worth keeping up with this year, and that, my friends, is to have longer lasting, better sex! Because well… Who wouldn’t want that? Continue Reading
I have an issue I have yet to hear on your show. My wife of 19 years comes too quickly! (Yes, she actually orgasms and isn’t faking). It takes very little for her to reach climax and once she does, she is done. Me, on the other hand… I take a very long time. Obviously, this proves to be a problem as she comes first and is immediately done.
Because she comes so quickly, she is always in a rush to get me to finish. Once she is done she starts questioning me if I am done. Major turn off. She isn’t into too much foreplay and she doesn’t like giving oral sex (especially not to completion) so everything I have been taught falls apart completely. Is there anything you can suggest to make her last longer and be more into it? Thanks
Daniel, 52, Colorado
As a sex and relationship expert, I’ve advised millions of couples (and singles) who listen to my podcast hoping to enhance intimacy and improve their sex lives. If you have a question about a particular sexual issue or experience, I’m certain I’ve covered it. After a decade of doing my podcast, there is one topic that comes up over and over again: the dissatisfaction that occurs when one partner climaxes before the other.
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and love him to bits. He’s great! The only thing that kinda gets me down is that he doesn’t last as long as he used to. He says that he’s just too turned on, which I guess I understand, but he doesn’t try to help me finish. What can I do to help him last longer? And how can I get him to understand that he should be helping ME orgasm too, not rolling over and passing out?
Thank you for your insight!
Miranda from Canada
Okay Miranda, this is a sensitive situation, and not entirely uncommon. Men’s stamina has a tendency to fluctuate over time, so I’m not concerned here—there are plenty of ways you can work together to help him last longer. What I’m more concerned about is the fact that he doesn’t seem to care about pleasing you first. Continue Reading
I’m just going to put this out there — I have had quite a bit of mediocre sex.
No disrespect to my past partners, I certainly had a part in it as well. I expected them all to read my mind and KNOW what I wanted, without ever actually telling them what I wanted. And like many women out there, I gave epic orgasmic performances and handed out positive feedback to guys who didn’t even come close to earning it.
And then something wonderful happened. The sex started getting better! A lot of that had to do with the fact that I started to figure out what I liked in bed and became more comfortable asking for it. But there was also a shift in my partners’ bedroom attitudes that made a big difference. Whether I was choosing more considerate guys, or the guys I always flocked to had done some maturing, I can’t be sure. But all of a sudden, my partners genuinely cared about whether I was having a good time. And as a result, I WAS having a good time. Continue Reading