From day one as an only child, it was all about ME: my toys, my clothes, my world and ultimately my body. When puberty hit, it became all about ME time; a contemplation and reflection space with a piece of equipment that I suddenly understood after discovering a missing chapter in its user’s manual. An interlude to explore and indulge in any and every twist and turn of a sexual fantasy world that was vertically and horizontally expanding faster than West LA. Yes, there was a little shame in the 15 seconds after planting my flag at the summit, but by and large I felt entitled to this pursuit in the same way many feel about firearms and pedestrian right-of-ways. “I’m doing this and it’s gonna get done. Try and stop me.” Continue Reading
Welcome to Emily’s favorite month of the year! She and special guest Menace kick off May, the official Month of Masturbation, by taking your calls and getting to the heart of your issues and giving you a special challenge to make the most of this month’s theme.
Q: DEAR EMILY,
My boyfriend and I broke up about six months ago, but we’re still living together (we don’t want the expense of breaking our lease, and where we live is very seasonal so it’s hard to find new tenants). He ended things because he was going through some personal stuff and wanted to work on himself. The problem is that we never stopped having sex.
Things started up again casually, where it was just hot and random, but I’ve noticed that lately he has started to bring some feelings back into it and I am finding that I too still have feelings for him. He is very intimate, cupping my face, telling me that he loves me. Then going out with friends and acting single. He’s very back and forth about it. I’m totally confused.
I don’t know if this is normal, or maybe he still wants to be with me? Is it possible to have a “friend with benefits” with an ex?
New Jersey Continue Reading
Having the courage to ask questions shows that you care about improving your life; whether it’s your love or sex life, you’ve identified something that just isn’t going right, and you want it to be better. On today’s show, Emily is answering all of your quandaries to help give you the knowledge you need for a life full of loving—both in and out of the bedroom.
When it comes to sex and dating, it can be hard to tell where you’ve gone wrong. You may think you’re speaking the language of love, but are you speaking the right one? On today’s show, Emily is giving her expert advice on common sex and dating dilemmas to get you headed in the right direction for great sex!
I was dating a guy who was great in bed. The first time we hooked up, he asked me what my fantasy was—I told him, we went with it and it was really hot. As we continued to date, he kept asking me what my fantasies were, so then I thought that the ones I had already shared weren’t hot enough. I started worrying about what he thought of me, and if I was too boring.
I realized that when I’m with someone, I focus on trying to be exciting, thinking more about what my partner might want rather than putting my needs and desires first. My question is, how can I focus more on myself and what I like without being selfish in bed?
Jess, 31 Continue Reading
With all the complications that come with sex and dating, once you’ve locked someone down, the easiest part should be having sex…right? No longer do you have to impress this person or bring them to a state of awe because you’ve already got them right there on the couch eating potato chips and sloppy joes.
When it comes to actually doing ‘it,’ things become lopsided; one person initiates all the time, and it never seems to cross the other’s mind. Maybe both partners grew into laziness as time passed and before they realized it—the last time they had sex was before football season. Continue Reading
One thing that sex, love and dating have in common is doubt. We’re all wondering if we’re doing it right, or how we can make it better. On today’s show, Emily is back on the hotline, taking your calls to help you go from confused to confident. Her insight brings sanity to your most complex questions.
Dating apps; so many people use them, yet the stigma still remains. The hook-up culture linked to the world of swiping leaves some feeling defeated or desperate, but single people in search of love or company keep coming back! There has to be some success…right? On today’s show, Emily is diving deep into why we bother with online dating, as well as answering some of your most perplexing sex questions!