On today’s show, Emily is joined by Bulletproof founder and Headstrong author Dave Asprey to talk about ways to biohack your sex life to make you happier and healthier.
With sex, pleasure is the name of the game, but when it comes to having a disability, it can involve more struggle than sensation. Thanks to technology though, there are ways to get around the hurdles life has thrown you. So never fret! Your steamy sex life is just around the corner.
Q: DEAR EMILY,
My husband (age 33) and I have been married for two years, together
for three and a half. In the beginning sex was fun, passionate and frequent. Now it seems like my libido is non existent, and I’m perfectly happy having sex once or twice a week (or less). His libido is as high as ever; he wants it once or twice per day, and doesn’t really like masturbating (though he will when he’s desperate).
When we don’t have sex as often as he wants, he gets frustrated and very cranky, so I feel obliged to participate as frequently as possible, but sometimes I’m just plain tired or feel lazy. Sometimes I’ll just have sex with him even if I don’t want to, hoping that I can get aroused once we get going. Half the time this works and I orgasm, and the rest of the time I go through the motions that usually work, and nothing happens. It’s like I can’t get my brain into it no matter what! We have toys, we try new things and we do some foreplay (though I’m sure could always use more). This is extremely frustrating for both of us.
I used to be super horny in my teens and 20s, and now I could hardly care less. How can I get my brain to want more sex?Am I just getting old? (Just FYI: I did go off the pill about a year and half ago, if you think that’s a factor.)
Every day women are bombarded with images and messages that attempt to “define” female sexuality. More often than not, these depictions are in conflict with one another. Are women supposed to be the ever lusty, pouting, prostrate super models we see in magazines? Are all millennial women just career gals, leaning in during the day, and kicking back at night with a bottle of wine and a handful of Tinder options? Or perhaps female sexuality is regulated to a short stint before the childbearing years; only to disappear once the babies come, leaving couples with nothing but sitcom humor and a resignation to their now sexless future? Continue Reading
There’s nothing wrong with not being in the mood every now and then. Everyone’s libido fluctuates for a range of reasons. Hormonal changes, age, your menstrual cycles and even a heavy meal can make you feel more passion for Netflix than your partner. But if you find that it’s a persistent problem, or if it starts to affect your relationship, it’s important to take the downturn seriously.
The culprit for your lack of longing could also be something you’d never expect!
Today’s show is all about getting back into the driver’s seat of your sex life!
Are you worried you’re doomed to a G-spotless bedroom existence? Are your impossibly high dating standards holding you back from meeting Ms. Right? Does “eye for an eye” really apply when it comes to marital infidelity? Emily and Anderson share sage advice to help steer you towards sex and relationship bliss, and uncover which careers are more likely to land you a Tinder date.