Q: DEAR EMILY,
I’ve been dating my current boyfriend for just about a year now, and he’s amazing! We have great sex, but it’s not always the most exciting. He regularly asks me what I’m interested in, but I don’t know how to approach the topic. We recently took a sex questionnaire (where you compare answers at the end), and it really helped me to get some of my wants out on the table—which he’s been very responsive to—but I’d still like to try some more exciting things, like temperature play and being tied down.
How do I bring these up without (a) scaring the pants off him and (b) making him feel bad? Because I love our sex, I just think it could be more intense and sensual.
Amelia, 26, France