The Truth About DDLG As Told by a Little
When’s the last time you said “Yes Daddy?” If I had to guess, it’s probably been over ten years at least. Me on the other hand, I said it earlier today, but not to my father, to my boyfriend. No it wasn’t in the midst of an early morning romp in the sack, it was just over coffee.
Calling your lover “Daddy” while making love is one thing, but have you ever even fathomed calling him “Daddy” twenty-four seven?
Being in a DDLG relationship I do.
What is it?
DDLG stands for Daddy Dom/Little Girl. It’s a kink that is a subcategory of BDSM. The Daddy is the dominate role while the little girl is in the submissive. Though the title describes a male dominate and female submissive, it is not gender specific by any means. It can be played between a mommy and little boy or be same sex; sometimes also called CG/L, meaning Caregiver/Little. This fetish might have similar components with BDSM, but it leans much more to an air of caring, loving, nurturing, and guidance. Not to say that a good spanking is out of the question.
Trail of Misconceptions
First and foremost, DDLG is absolutely not incest, pedophelia, or sex with minors, nor does it condone any of these things. It is all about playing a game– a fantasy– between two consenting adults. Sex doesn’t even have to be involved. Every relationship is different and, like BDSM, it can be foreplay or simply a way to release or escape. Also, playing doesn’t require a specific age or a substantial gap. Plenty of young men and women discover their caregiver side as early as their twenties, while others who are middle-aged have held onto their inner child.
How Does it Work?
Both BDSM and DDLG incorporate guidance, protection, training, devotion, trust, and punishments. However, there are still many differences. In Daddy/Little, age play is very common (though not required). The Little fully embraces her inner-child and sometimes will have a specific age she pretends to be (I usually play a twelve-year-old) which is called “little space.” The Daddy treasures and embraces his little’s inner child. Doms who tilt more toward BDSM and Masters may find this annoying.
The little’s needs and growth are more important than protocol. In both BDSM and DDLG, the Sub gives over power along with respect. Both have rules and punishments, but in DDLG they are much more relaxed. While both get spankings, a Sub/Slave might also have to kneel until her feet go numb, while a Little might simply not get ice cream after dinner. A Daddy is much more intimate and nurturing, almost taking on a parental role without taking the place of the Sub’s actual father. A Little, though a grown woman, still enjoys childlike activities, i.e. playing with stuffies (stuffed animals), Disney movies, and story time.
The Daddy Role
Daddy Doms are lovers, not hitters. He loves his little unconditionally, and does not like harming her. Those with a sadistic streak may cause his Little physical pain per her desire (and for her own good), but never emotional pain. A Daddy appreciates and cherishes all parts of her– Little and grown up. He loves that she adores cuddles and Disney, and at the same time, guides and helps her reach her life goals– proud of her accomplishments. He cares for, guides, dominates, punishes, praises, comforts, understands, and loves his little. She is his and he only wants the best for her.
The Little Role
A little is very complicated. She is a sexy woman and a cute girl; a no mess business woman who also sleeps with a teddy bear. She enjoys wearing sexy lingerie and pretty pink bows in her hair, and goes from girls’ night out to tea parties with her stuffies. A Little is naturally submissive. She has complete trust, respect, and admiration for her daddy, feeling safest in his arms because she is free to be her true self. She knows all that he does is for her own good. All the punishments, protection, and support, even sometimes him pushing her to be her best self. She might be needy, sassy, bratty, and whiny, but she holds a pure and innocent enthusiasm.
A Daddy protects his Little, but the Little is also always there to support her daddy. Through good and bad, she is his light and he is her hero. That is how I feel with my Daddy. Some may say this is degrading and ask, who would want to be treated like a child? For me, it brings my boyfriend and I so much closer. We play with each other twenty-four seven, yet in my personal day to day life, I am independent, self-reliant, and a huge supporter of female strength. Playing this game, I’ve found it helps keep the innate masculine and feminine roles in tact. And to be honest, it’s just really fun.