VIRGINITY MEDLEY: 7 ‘BEST OF’ BLOGS & PODCASTS
They say good things come to those who wait, but when it comes to losing your virginity, it can feel like quite the opposite.
We all have different experiences, and different feelings about taking that epic step into adulthood. Regardless if you were an early, late, or totally on-par bloomer, there’s no denying the conversation surrounding virginity can be a tricky one to tackle.
This doesn’t mean that the conversation should be avoided. So to kick off the discussion and throw our own two cents into the mix, here’s a mashup of some of our best virginity-themed blogs and podcasts.
VIRGINITY: A SOCIAL CONSTRUCT
What does the term “virginity” even mean in the first place? As we know, sex is a complex thing. So realizing how restrictive some of these older definitions are is a symptom of our ever-changing society. Between types of sex, sexual orientations and stigmas galore, the notion of virginity can be a whirlwind to process. Which is why we whipped up the blog Virginity: A Social Construct to break all of this down and reassure that if you’ve ever felt pressured by the idea, you’re definitely not alone.
THE VIRGIN DIARIES
There’s never any shame in being a late bloomer in life, but with that can come some sticky situations to navigate…like being a virgin in your late-20s, 30s or longer. It’s understandable to feel self-conscious about it – and worse, feel even MORE self-conscious about the sex whenever the time comes! However, regardless of how late to the pleasure party you feel, there are plenty of pro tips on how to ease yourself into it, as outlined in the blog The Virgin Diaries.
ASK EMILY: “HELP, I’M AFRAID OF SEX!”
As one can imagine, there are a lot of different reason why someone might be still be a “virgin”. But in addition to potential anxieties, embarrassment and just the sheer timing of it all, it’s certainly not uncommon for religion to rear its divisive head in the matter as well. Guilt, shame, whatever the emotions may be, the fact is that’s not what you should have to feel in the bedroom (you know, unless you’re into that sort of thing). So to help sort through all the feels and get your sexy perspective on a more positive track, it’s worth checking out this edition of the Ask Emily column, “Help, I’m Afraid of Sex!”
THE TOP 4 BEST TOYS FOR SEX TOY VIRGINS
Since we’ve established that “virginity” doesn’t have a single, set-in-stone meaning, it can be applicable to a wide range of sexual experiences. Sex toys, most definitely included. Although just as having sex for the first time can feel intimidating…so can entering your first foray into the world of toys. Which is why we’re swooping to the rescue with gobs of alluring yet approachable recommendations in tow with the blog The Top 4 Best Toys For Sex Toy Virgins.
CALLING ALL VIRGINS: YOUR FIRST TIME SEX GUIDE
Diving into anything for the first time can be nerve-racking, especially when it’s as physically and emotionally intimate as sex. But it’s time to kick those worries to the curb, because Emily’s here and armed with her First Time Sex Preparedness Guide! Dedicated to all the virgins out there, the podcast episode Calling All Virgins: Your First Time Sex Guide is a one-stop shop for how to kick things off right when it comes to your inaugural pleasure journey. Clearing the air on some of the most common virginity misconceptions, she’s dishing out her best tips for keeping your “sexpectations” in check and having a healthy, happy outlook on that token *first time*.
ONE VIRGIN, TWO SUBS & A THREESOME
Mindset is everything when it comes to your love life, so it’s no secret that overcoming insecurities is a vital step of the virginity path. In the episode One Virgin, Two Subs & A Threesome, Emily and her trusty cohort Anderson dig deep into ways to channel your inner confidence and get out of your own way. Between self-sabotaging, negativity and saddling yourself with unnecessary pressure, there are loads of ways we sometimes block our own pleasure potential. But with a little rewiring of your thoughts and realizing that it’s an awkwardness we all experienced at some point, you too can finally conquer the mental obstacles and embrace the amazing sex life you will come to adore.
SWE: LIKE A VIRGIN
Pulling from depths of the SWE archives goes to show that virginity has been a hot topic since…pretty much forever. So in the vintage episode SWE: Like A Virgin, Emily spearheads the conversation with Menace to answer questions from virgins of all ages and leave no pre-coital stone unturned. Who should it be with? Will my inexperience show? Is it really that “special” in the first place? The queries might seem endless, but luckily these two have the red-hot answers for how to set yourself up for making the experience the best it can possibly be.
Just like marriage, school, and having kids (or cats), it should go without saying that everyone has their own timeline. For as many turns as life can take, there isn’t a cut-and-dried “right” time for everything; so it’s always up to us to figure out what and when makes the most sense, given our individual circumstances.
In the end, we were all virgins at one point, so always at least remember it’s a league of awkwardness that spares no one. Though for as awkward, tricky and sometimes uncomfortable as it may feel in that moment, just know sex definitely gets better. Much, MUCH better.
Alex Anderson is an LA-based lifestyle designer proactively raging against the cultural grain. By day she works in television production, and by night enjoys writing, sewing and seeking guidance from the stars. She also finally has an all black kitty named “Cher.” You can follow her alt-lifestyle blog MSFT Living and on Instagram!