Your Questions Answered: When To Call It Quits

How many times do you try to make a relationship work before calling it quits?

That’s a great question. I have a theory, if it’s more than two times you probably should end the relationship. When you’re in a serious relationship and you break up and get back together and break up and get back together, I don’t believe that works. I believe that’s a sign that it doesn’t work. If you’re asking to call it quits, you should probably call it quits. Because what happens is, people call and write in asking this and I think that when you break up with someone, and women do this often, we tend to glorify the person after we break up with them. We miss them. We think of all the good things and think, ‘Oh, maybe it’s a good time to get back together.’ But it’s not! Usually, because we’re forgetting all the bad stuff, we get relationship amnesia. You get back together and the same stuff starts to happen. Unless the issues have been worked out and you BOTH worked on those issues, don’t get back together just because you miss them.