Your Secret Weapon for Better Orgasms

ss_101759896Out of blue, I got a call one day from a friend’s husband who works at a high end investment firm in Los Angeles. I’d met him at a few cocktail parties but we’d never talked business before.

“Hi Emily, there’s a medical company on the cutting edge of innovation, and they came to us for an investment, and you’re the expert in this sexual wellness space, so it’d be great for to come to our offices to see what you think of these products.”

He’s a more conservative guy, so I was particularly interested that he was calling me to talk sex toys. I drove to his high rise penthouse offices, displaying spectacular views of Los Angeles, and he hands me a stack of boxes that read “INTENSITY: An intimate health and stimulation device” from

“Let me know what you think, I have no idea about sex toys (he whispers under his breath) but this product claims to use some groundbreaking technology and have health benefits. Can you try it and let me know if you think and if it’s worth our investment?”

I thanked him, and left with boxes in hand, and assured him I’d report back with my professional opinion (have I mentioned how much I love my job?) 

So why makes the Intensity by Pour Moi so ground-breaking?

Well, what If I told you someone could do your sit-ups for you, you’d have a six pack and all you have to do is lie on your back for a few minutes a day?  Would you sign up?

This product does the same thing, but it strengthens your pelvic floor muscles. If you’re thinking, “Sounds great, but why do I care about these muscles again?” let me explain… 

When the pelvic floor muscles are strong, women have greater sexual satisfaction, stronger orgasms and higher levels of arousal. The problem is, just like any other muscle, the pelvic floor muscles atrophy over time. For women, this leads to many serious problems with orgasms, arousal and urinary incontinence, just to name a few.

But don’t worry, ladies – Kegels can help! They make everything tighter and more toned down there, and the more you do your exercises, working these internal muscles, they become stronger and so do your orgasms (bonus!)

I’m so committed to the importance of Kegel Exercises that I launched a phone app a few years ago called “Kegel Camp” that allows you to set a daily reminder so you’ll never forget to do them again. 

When I first launched the app, religiously did my Kegel exercises for 5 minutes a day for three months. The results were tremendous. In about two weeks, I was experiencing the strongest most intense orgasms I had ever felt, like none other that have come before.

My pelvic floor muscles were tighter which completely changed up my entire sex game. With the Intensity, I’m experiencing the same results – ONLY BETTER – because the Intensity adjusts to fit any body and helps to target the correct muscles so I know I’m doing the exercises correctly.

Studies show that 43% of women experience difficulty enjoying sex at some point in their lives. Age, childbirth and stress all play an active role in women’s ability to participate in and enjoy sex.  I’m convinced healthy pelvic floor muscles will improve many of the issues that women face today around sexual health and desire, which is why the Intensity is such a game-changer. 

I asked the rest of the Sex With Emily team (Laurie, Madison and Alyssa) to break down the basics of the Intensity to help you get the most out of your experience. Here’s what they had to say…



Before you introduce this device to your lady parts, you’re probably going to want to know what it is. The Intensity can best be described as transvaginal stimulation device. Originally, the Intensity was designed to treat anorgasmic women and women with urinary incontinence, so naturally, the two main outcomes of using it are stronger pelvic floor (PC) muscles and more frequent, intense orgasms. You’d be hard-pressed to find a woman who doesn’t want to be tighter and come harder.

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At first glance, the Intensity looks a lot like a rabbit vibrator with a wide handle. It has a shaft, an external clitoral vibrator attached to the shaft, and an inflation pump located at the base. The inflation pump is there to customize the fit of the Intensity to each individual vagina. Inflating it ensures that the muscle stimulators are in direct contact with the user’s pelvic floor muscles. If you’ve inflated it too much, there is a black air release button on the underside of the Intensity that will deflate it to a more comfortable girth. Pain should never be a part of your experience with the Intensity.

Also on the base are the buttons which control the vibration and stimulation of the Intensity. What do I mean by stimulation? Well, on the shaft of the Intensity, there are two stainless steel pads. These are the muscle stimulators; the most innovative part of the toy. These muscle stimulators come into direct contact with your pelvic floor muscles, conduct a slight electrical current, and do your Kegel exercises for you intravaginally. There are 10 intensity levels of stimulation, start with level one and increase slowly over time, making sure to always feel a full muscle contraction.

In addition to the workout your pelvic floor muscles get from the Intensity, it also comes with two separate vibrators. There is an internal G-spot vibrator just at the base of the shaft, and a clitoral rabbit vibrator on the outside of the device. There are 5 intensity levels of vibration. The controls are located on the handle, V for vibration and S for stimulation.

The intensity is powered by 4 AAA batteries and is 100% medical grade silicone. It is not waterproof, but can be easily cleaned with a damp cloth. When using the Intensity, it is imperative to read all the enclosed instructions before use and make sure to apply the Pour Moi electrode gel to the metallic stimulation pads.



Upon first unveiling my brand new Intensity, I couldn’t help but feel a little intimidated. There are a lot more functions than your average toy, and a hell of a lot more buttons to push, so I decided to get the lay of the land before I brought it anywhere near my vagina. I powered it on and off, inflated and deflated it a few times to get a feel for the inflation pump, and even tested the vibration strength. Once I felt more comfortable with the wide array of buttons and functions, I started to feel more comfortable with the device overall and was ready to play!

Something I discovered early on (and this is true for all insertable sex toys, but especially with Intensity) is that it helps to be relaxed before using. Some might rely on alcohol or yoga to loosen themselves up – I decided to pull out my trusty Magic Wand Rechargeable and masturbate first. This was an AWESOME call for several reasons: The orgasms helped me release any vaginal tension I was storing up and also produced natural lubrication, both of which made the insertion process a whole lot smoother. Also, breaking the orgasm seal made me a lot more sensitive down-there and helped me to enjoy a couple more Intensity-induced orgasms during my “workout”. I definitely recommend it!

Before actually inserting Intensity into your vagina, a couple more steps need to be taken. For starters, you need to wash it! Make sure the device is 100% OFF, then wipe it down using a mild, unscented soap, warm water and a wash cloth. Once it is thoroughly rinsed and dried, apply a dime-sized amount of the electrode gel to each of the stimulation contacts (AKA the metal plates) and the tip of the device. If you’ve used enough gel and have masturbated before insertion, you probably won’t need any additional lubricant, but you can opt for a water-based lube if you like.

Once Intensity is cleaned and has the proper dressings, it is ready for use!



After knocking out a couple orgasms and applying the electrode gel, I got ready to assume the position. There are two suggested ways that you can use the Intensity: you can lie on your back with your pelvis flat, knees bent toward the ceiling and pillows under your head and back, or on your side with knees and hips bent. I found it to be more comfortable lying on my back, but that’s just a personal preference. I recommend trying both to see what you like better. After all, comfort is key!

Before actually inserting the device, I made sure that it was completely off and was fully deflated, as per the instructions. Then I gently and slowly inserted the probe until it was in all the way in and sat comfortably inside me.

Next comes the inflation part. I have to be honest, finding the exact comfortability level (not too big, but pumped up enough so that it fills you up) is kind of like a vaginal version of Goldilocks and the Three Bears. It took me a little while, but once I found the perfect level of inflation (one pump to start), I hit the power button and started exploring the vibration and stimulation functions.

The Intensity boasts powerful clitoral and internal vibrations that really do rock your world, but that’s not this device’s only purpose. So how do you know it’s working your PC muscles and not just providing pleasure? That’s where the stimulation levels come in. Start with Level 1 and work your way up – if the Intensity is positioned correctly, you should be able to feel your PC muscles contracting around the probe, even at the lowest intensity level. If you aren’t experiencing any contractions, you might need to try rotating it 90 degrees to find the perfect alignment.

The first time I used Intensity, level one was “intense” enough for me to feel my muscles contract, and I was totally blown away! You can truly feel your body and muscles building and strengthening as the device works it’s magic. As I’ve gotten more used to the device, I’ve been able to move up a level in stimulation, but it’s better to start at a lower setting until you’re totally familiar with the feeling and the response.

After discovering the perfect settings, I just laid back, relaxed and enjoyed Intensity working the oh-so-important PC muscles for 5-10 minutes. I usually like to change up the vibration settings and will hit orgasm within about 5 minutes on average, always working to at least one or more in the entire session (because I’m a bit greedy when it comes to orgasms). If you’re a visual person, find a dirty movie or some kind of mental stimulation (dirty magazine, erotica etc.) and enjoy a great masturbation session while you are also strengthening your body, sex life and future orgasms!


Remember, this is just like going to the gym in that if you stop using it, you will lose the progress you’ve built – except that the gym usually takes more than 10 minutes and doesn’t (usually) end in orgasms.

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