Ejaculation Etiquette: Before, During & After
Ejaculation can make for a sticky subject.
When it comes to crossing the finish during partnered sex, proper ejaculation etiquette is one of the most important considerations.
A large part of orgasm satisfaction is tied into the sensational finish that follows.
Regardless of who’s on the giving and receiving ends, that product has to go somewhere.
It’s about time we all get schooled in the social grace of sensuality, and brush up on how to ejaculate with respect.
Thoughtless ejaculation is one thing when you’re alone in the comforts of your own room. When another person enters the mix, it becomes a completely different story.
Any time that you’re having sex – and certainly when not using a condom – it’s absolutely essential to be on the same page about handling the grand finale. That’s not something you’ll want to sort out in a passionate moment. The first rule of thumb is to establish each other’s preferences beforehand.
Always be candid about where to stick the landing is always needed, no matter what kind of sex you’re having. You can be upfront about what you prefer and see how your partner feels, and discuss what works best for you both. Personal boundaries are important, don’t force anyone into doing (or receiving) something they’re not comfortable with.
The Main Event
The thing about good communication is that it’s not just for pre-sex planning. Getting on the same page from the beginning is important. However, it’s arguably even more important to stay on the same page throughout the act.
So when you feel the heat of the moment coming to its euphoric end, it’s a good idea to warn your partner when you’re about to climax. That way they can position as previously discussed. Then after that’s all said and done, it’s additionally on you to help clean them up.
For the record, ejaculating inside of someone is an absolute no-go, unless you get complete consent from them ahead of time. Unprotected vaginal, anal, and oral sex all increase the risk of pregnancy as well as STIs. Even if you are protected or under conditions where pregnancy isn’t possible, it’s still a cardinal rule to never do the deed inside without your partner’s explicit permission.
Vaginas Returning The Favor
For penis bodied humans, climax and ejaculation often go hand in hand, but for all the vagina owners out there, it’s not quite as guaranteed.
Female ejaculation – A.K.A. squirting – may sometimes seem elusive, however for those who can pull off this sexual superpower, polite protocol is just as important. So if you know it’s something that could potentially happen, you want to be candid about it from the start.
Since your partner will hopefully find it super-hot anyway, let’s first be clear: there’s nothing to be embarrassed about! Nor should you feel like you need to make a big deal out of it, either.
Keeping things honest yet playful can make the exchange feel more flirtatious than confessional. If you know some splashing might take place along the way, you can give them a casual heads up beforehand. Bringing it up in advance can also provide the chance to grab a towel or a Liberator Fascinator Throw, which can also help make cleaning up after the fact a lot more manageable.
Delay Spray Bonus
If you find yourself wanting a little more time before crossing the finish, a delay spray like Promescent could be just the thing for you. Of course, ejaculatory politeness boils down to what you do, not how long you do it. But lasting longer can gift the added bonus of more time for both parties to enjoy as much pleasure as possible.
With longer sessions also comes more control, so as you find yourself ready to blow, you won’t have to worry about anything ending up somewhere you didn’t intend.
Let’s face it, ejaculation is a messy business. Talking about it first makes for a cleaner and more pleasurable experience for everyone. Addressing desires and boundaries brings new levels of respect into play, which makes for a happier, healthier and all-around more thoughtful orgasms, guaranteed.
Alex Anderson is an LA-based lifestyle designer proactively raging against the cultural grain. By day she works in television production, and by night enjoys writing, sewing and seeking guidance from the stars. She also finally has an all black kitty named “Cher.” You can follow her website and on Instagram!