FETISH SPOTLIGHT: PARAPHILIC INFANTILISM
For some adults, things like pacifiers, diapers and cribs are a thing of the distant past. Some only deal with these things when they have children of their own. But in other cases still, they all have a prominent place in the bedroom. That’s right, today we’re talking adult babies.
Of-age, consenting adults that simply get off on the notion of age-playing as floor-crawling, toy-wielding, diaper-donned infants.
Have questions? Well, you’re definitely not alone. It’s an intriguing world that often warrants quite a few if you’re not a direct member. So without further ado, let’s dive into today’s fetish spotlight.
WHAT IS IT?
Paraphilic infantilism is also known as “adult baby fetish”. It means that you get sexually aroused by role-playing as a baby. Acting, dressing, interacting—the whole shebang.
For many this can include wearing diapers, onesies and other baby-style clothing. It can mean drinking from baby bottles/sippie cups or using custom, adult-sized baby furniture like cribs and high chairs. It can involve playing with toys, taking on a nurturing and/or submissive dynamic with a partner, and getting down with elements of humiliation and degradation that can come along with said relationship.
It’s a fetish that appeals to people of all genders, sexual orientations and walks of life in general. Elements of it can also often overlap with other sexual interests, such as masochism, lactophilia and, sometimes, cross-dressing.
WHAT IT’S NOT
Before we get too much further, it’s also important with this fetish in particular to clarify everything that it’s not. Because, you know, things have a way of getting confusing.
Paraphilic infantilism is NOT:
- Pedophilia (since the adult baby fetish is all about consenting adults age-playing as babies, not seeking out/having any interest in actual children as partners)
- Diaper fetishists (who get sexual pleasure from wearing diapers and/or seeing others wear them, but not acting like babies)
- Members of the ABDL (adult baby diaper lover) community who are into the clothing, products and lifestyle but have no sexual motivation in their role-playing
WHERE DOES IT COME FROM?
Similar to other niche fetishes, there isn’t a lot of official research that can track the prevalence of adult babies. But plenty of people engage in paraphilic infantilism for plenty of different reasons.
Whether sexually driven or not, some find it comforting to regress to a simpler time that mentally takes them away from the day-to-day responsibilities and pressure of being an adult. Other times, it’s a matter of enjoying the nurturing and attention of a more dominant partner who assumes the role of caregiver/babysitter. It could be rooted in living out the kind of childhood one perhaps wished they had had, or even using it as a way to “reclaim” their own childhood to help work through certain traumas and other potentially negative experiences.
Like anything else, it’s not black and white. But the slew of adult baby stores, YouTube channels, online communities, and real-life adult nurseries/day care centers that exist all go to show the popularity is very real.
“Traditional” ways of having sex have been ingrained in the societal brain for decades, but so long as it’s consensual, safe and not harmful to anyone else, there shouldn’t be any shame for embracing what turns you on.
While some fetishes are more of a production than others, indulging them doesn’t mean you can’t have just as happy, healthy and functioning of a life and career as anyone else. After all, sexuality is crazy, silly and sometimes weird to begin with. So who’s to say what’s more “weird” than any other?
Alex Anderson is an LA-based lifestyle designer proactively raging against the cultural grain. By day she works in television production, and by night enjoys writing, sewing and seeking guidance from the stars. She also finally has an all black kitty named “Cher.” You can follow her website (www.alexjanderson.com) and on Instagram (@AJAndMore)!