Porn – it’s great, it’s entertaining, it’s a turn on. But, if that’s where you’re learning about sex… you’re in for a rude awakening.
Q: DEAR EMILY,
I’ve been dating my current boyfriend for just about a year now, and he’s amazing! We have great sex, but it’s not always the most exciting. He regularly asks me what I’m interested in, but I don’t know how to approach the topic. We recently took a sex questionnaire (where you compare answers at the end), and it really helped me to get some of my wants out on the table—which he’s been very responsive to—but I’d still like to try some more exciting things, like temperature play and being tied down.
How do I bring these up without (a) scaring the pants off him and (b) making him feel bad? Because I love our sex, I just think it could be more intense and sensual.
Amelia, 26, France
On today’s throwback show, Emily is joined by comedian Erik Griffin from Comedy Central’s Workaholics and the two are talking about dating in the digital world, different types of relationships, and debate whether or not sex is the most important thing in a relationship.
Q: DEAR EMILY,
My boyfriend and I have always had great sex—and had it pretty frequently. But within the last year, with the crazy-busy schedules we have, we’re having a hard time getting on the same page. When we have sex it’s great, but we never seem to be wanting it at the same time.
Since then, my other problem has been something I’ve never had an issue with before: I’ve been getting dry. It doesn’t happen until my boyfriend puts a condom on. He never thought we needed lube, but it’s making sex uncomfortable and hard to enjoy.
What can I do?Thanks!
Cathy, 24, Missouri
I happened to be in a local store and wandered over to where they keep condoms. I had no idea there are so many different kinds! Where does a beginner start? Are women responsible for buying condoms? What about latex allergies? And lastly, what should I keep in my nightstand? Do I have to buy various types and sizes since I’ll have no idea what my date may be into?
Help! I’m so lost.