Vacations are essential for couples, especially when life makes it nearly impossible to connect on the level that’s crucial to enhance intimacy. Sure, there will be time for swimming, tanning, hiking, biking and shopping, but don’t forget the most delicious part of time away: Vacation Sex. Continue Reading
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and love him to bits. He’s great! The only thing that kinda gets me down is that he doesn’t last as long as he used to. He says that he’s just too turned on, which I guess I understand, but he doesn’t try to help me finish. What can I do to help him last longer? And how can I get him to understand that he should be helping ME orgasm too, not rolling over and passing out?
Thank you for your insight!
Miranda from Canada
Okay Miranda, this is a sensitive situation, and not entirely uncommon. Men’s stamina has a tendency to fluctuate over time, so I’m not concerned here—there are plenty of ways you can work together to help him last longer. What I’m more concerned about is the fact that he doesn’t seem to care about pleasing you first. Continue Reading
I have really been getting into this girl at work. We keep it professional, but we also find time and ways to flirt and joke around. I’ve noticed though that she also jokes around with a couple other guys in the office, so I am not sure if she is into me or just flirty. What is the best way to approach asking out a girl that you work with? If it turns out she isn’t into me, work will become really awkward and I’m sure gossip and rumors will start. I don’t want to miss out on a chance to take her on a date, but only if she is interested.
I dated a girl for eight years who wasn’t at all into receiving oral sex. Even though I was totally into giving her oral pleasure, she just wasn’t a fan for some reason. We eventually broke up, but because of that long relationship without it, I have no idea what I’m doing down there. Now I’m dating a new girl who is amazing, blunt and honest about what she wants in the bedroom. She recently let it drop that she likes receiving oral. How can I go from novice to pro so I can make her experience a good one?
Mike Continue Reading
I’m 21 and have been with my girlfriend for four years. We’re close and she’s pretty open to trying new things in bed, but I want to know how I should bring up pegging to her? She will occasionally finger my back door but she feels a little weird about it. I really don’t know if she will be into it or not and I don’t want to freak her out.
Dean Continue Reading
I was listening to one of your podcasts and was really surprised to hear you advise against the pull-out method. I’ve been using it for most of my sex life and have never had any problems. Same goes for my boyfriend and plenty of my friends! My guy doesn’t like using condoms, so that’s always been our go-to, and I’ve read it’s 96 percent effective. So what’s the deal?
Happy 4th of July weekend, everybody!
How time flies… It seems like just yesterday, I was advising you on how to sex up the most popular couples’ holiday of the year (thank god Valentine’s Day has passed, am I right?)
Now we have reached another important landmark, but this one has an entirely new twist. Because instead of lighting off bottle rockets at BBQ’s to commemorate yet another couple-heavy holiday, we are instead celebrating the anniversary of a historical UNcoupling. Continue Reading
About 5 years ago, I had a casual sex relationship with a man and it was the best sex I’ve ever had. We went on a few dates, but there was no intellectual connection. Fast forward to now: I broke up with my boyfriend about a month and a half ago and recently texted my old booty-call asking if he is single. Now, I know we don’t have a connection, we will never have a relationship and we’ve both said we’re over the casual sex thing. However, I haven’t been physically satisfied for over five years with anyone except for him.
So my question is: what are the rules here? Will I be using him if I just want sex? I know he probably wouldn’t have a problem with it, but if we are both trying to find something “real”, is this all a waste of time?
Mixed Up in the Midwest Continue Reading
The summer solstice has finally arrived, bringing with it a glimpse of what we can expect for the hot, sweat-filled couple of months ahead of us. Not every place succumbs to the dry heat, blaring sun, and huge hikes in their air conditioning bills, but places like Southern California know these characteristics all too well. When it comes to describing great sex, we like to use words like hot and steamy to show how turned on we are. The summer air, however, is bringing an unfortunate literalness to the those warm-weather adjectives.
Try as you might to fight the heat, you may feel the need to cool your sex down during these months. Maybe you stop using blankets, keep all the lights off, or stand right next to the A/C unit to give yourselves that cool relief. You could lower the temperature, or… You could embrace the warmth, and make it a part of your sexy time routine! That’s right, I’m talking heat play. Continue Reading
When done correctly, a blow job can be the perfect weapon to have in your arsenal. It’s hot, it’s intimate and has the power to catapult you to new realms of ‘dream girl’ territory, not to mention inspire your partner to return the favor. But more importantly, a great blow job can be a lot of fun! Continue Reading