During this pandemic, people are picking up new skills left and right. We’re learning how to cook, painting our walls, finding new hobbies that we didn’t have time for before lockdown. Finding joy even in little moments is important right now. Making pleasure for ourselves is key.
Studies show that pleasure can be a stress buffer. In other words, people who are under higher stress tend to be healthier and have lower mortality rates if they incorporate pleasure into their lives.
We experience pleasure through the body, so it’s natural to look for things that you can do with your body to increase the amount of pleasure you experience. The number one thing you can do with or without a partner to bring more pleasure through your body is…yep…orgasm.
Now, I know lots of people are out there trying to help you orgasm better, but I have found some different techniques that are unique and might help you climax even faster and harder! Here are some tips I learned from my own pandemic pleasure practice.
Picture this- you’re a gorgeous, Black, female-identifying, self-proclaimed dildo wrangler. You’ve just arrived in Vegas for your first big Sex Toy trade show. You check in at the registration, put on your badge, take a quick walk around the manufacturers’ booths to get a vibe. As you’re taking in everything you see you think….
Where are all the Black people?
Although there are more Black people in the sex toy industry today, 6 years ago I hardly saw any. I wondered why there were so few of us working in this area. (You might have guessed by now, that the gorgeous dildo wrangler was me.)
Let’s get balls deep into just one of the melanin-deficient sectors of the sex toy industry. I’m talking about the sexual product manufacturers.
The Vulva. Nope, it is not a classic German car for soccer moms. The Vulva is the outer genitalia of a female-bodied person. Generally speaking, the vulva includes the clitoris, the labia, and the opening of the urethra and vagina. What fun!
Instead of properly referring to the vulva, people often skip over it or confuse it with the vagina altogether. As such, the vulva has taken a backseat –until recently. Let’s change that and show the vulva some love.
When you think of foreplay, do you think touching, kissing, massaging? And do you think that happens in the bedroom as simply a perfunctory “warmup” for the big deed? Like, say, 10 minutes worth?
Well, think again. Foreplay isn’t just for the bedroom. In fact, it can be a geographically diverse series of events! It should even start wayyyy before sex.
This article will help you prime yourself and your partner for a sexy night. Here are some things you can do to make the leading up to sex (almost) as good as the sex itself.
With some states coming out of Covid-19 lockdown, many people are venturing out, having BBQs, trying to responsibly socialize and might feel like they have been let out of jail of social “confinement.” During the past few months of quarantine time (and especially since May was Masturbation Month), a lot of people have been focusing on masturbation as sexual release. Yay! But don’t let up on this focus just because you are potentially unleashed into the world and able to start to touch others.
This month is Pride month, and this year, our focus here at Sex With Emily during Pride is “playfulness.” In the theme of playfulness, finding new ways to play with your body is one of the best ways to spend Pride month!
Here are some ways you can “play” with your body.
Recently, I was on a Zoom call for a class on vulnerability. The facilitator asked us what we are doing during this pandemic to improve an area of our lives. I realized that my answer was unique: I have been working on strengthening my pelvic floor.
You may not realize, but exercising your pelvic floor is something you can do for yourself during this stressful time. All genders benefit from strengthening this area, as it affects your health in a variety of ways.
A strong pelvic floor can help support female organs, as well as the bladder. It may help prevent UTIs – which can get in the way of pain-free sex. Even better, a strong pelvic floor may help support a better sex life, affording better orgasms and increased genital sensitivity.
If you have a penis, a stronger pelvic floor can help with better range of motion for thrusting, and allow you to ejaculate further and with more control! Woohoo!
Let’s get into two ways you can strengthen your pelvic floor.
Most people think that sex toys are just for women, but that is not the case! In fact, they can be an amazing addition to any man’s sexual arsenal. Whether you’re going solo or with a partner, toys can deepen your pleasure, increase your erection time, boost sexual satisfaction during partnered sex, and help you experience multiple orgasms.
Today, we are going to explore five key reasons why you should try out a new sex toy or two. Or four. Or more. Who’s counting?
Covid-19 is changing the world as we know it. One industry that is seeing a big boon in sales due in part to the stay-at-home orders and a growing need for self-pleasure is the sex toy industry.
With masturbation being the one truly safest sex you can have during quarantine, finding and purchasing a new toy has become something of a new pastime. The privacy factor of being able to order online has also fed into the rush to purchase a new sex toy during lockdown. Yet, as the LA Times reports, “sex-toy sales are up, stigma is down.”
Meanwhile, one sex toy maker, Muse, has switched over its manufacturing from lube to hand sanitizer.
By the time my partner and I had settled into a sex routine, I had already forged a firm and profound bond with my Magic Wand.
No person had ever been able to deliver the type of orgasmic experience that my wand and I shared. It satisfied my sexual needs efficiently and effectively, and continues to everyday, no matter my relationship status. Continue Reading
Masturbation May is Marching on! In all the discussion of self love, we would be remiss not to honor a gold standard in masturbatory pleasure. I’m talking about the almighty “rabbit.”
The rabbit-style vibrator is one of the most iconic sex toy styles and known for its internal and external stimulation.
In this article we will briefly cover what it is, its history and presence in the collective sexual consciousness. Plus we’ll tell you all about our current favorite.