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QlwQJDating used to be so simple. We’d meet people through our friends or colleagues, at the grocery store, at work or at school. It was almost always someone with a close proximity to you, so you could rest assured that they weren’t an axe murderer, and after a date or two, it was pretty easy to figure out where you stood with each other.

Dating today, on the other hand, is a whirlwind of opportunity—and confusion.

We meet people through online dating services and through apps, swiping left and right based on a profile we’ve created—a profile that can sometimes feel like a brand we’re trying to sell to potential suitors. When we actually meet this person in the flesh, we have no idea if our relationship is potentially serious or casual, romantic or platonic. The doubt and ambiguity is just too much! We’re so overwhelmed that we blackout; we forget how we got to the coffee shop, and why we even went on this date in the first place. Continue Reading

giphy (99)There are certain things you can always count on from your girl friends.

They understand the healing power of a latte. If you need feminine supplies, they will not rest until the correct product is slipped discreetly into your hand. No matter how busy life gets, they will always down for brunch. And most importantly, if you are experiencing relationship troubles, they will be there at the drop of a hat to listen, analyze and give advice.

Even if it’s three in the morning and you’re freaking out over a text message laced with mixed signals, you know that all you need to do is put out the bat signal — like magic, they will materialize, wine in hand, to help you sort through the mess. It’s a beautiful thing, really. Continue Reading

eternity

When you enter into a long-term relationship, you’re prepared to share the most intimate parts of your life, from your greatest dreams to your worst fears to the REAL number of times you’ve seen Titanic.
But no one ever mentioned how hard it would be to sit down in front of a partner and say, “I want you to bend me over your knee and spank me.” Guess they left that part out… 
Opening up about your sexual needs and desires may seem like an impossible task, but the benefits are well worth the effort it takes to get there. And the good news, it doesn’t have to be as serious or scary as you think. In fact, it can actually be kind of hot… 

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3c820c84f45d194f9a28db7c5d09843cThe excitement of Valentine’s Day is winding down, leaving many of you wondering “now what”? You’ve spent the last week showering your partner with gifts, affection and fancy dinner reservations; love was in the air. But now it’s back to your regularly scheduled relationship. *sigh*

The way I see it, couples have two choices: surrender to the post-Valentine’s Day slump OR find a way to make every day the day of love. It really is that simple. Continue Reading

tumblr_nhm5szkh1t1tsnl0do1_500Let’s play a little Valentine’s Day fantasy game, shall we? Don’t worry; this will be super easy and fun.

Here’s how to play: Relax your body… take a deep, deep inhale… let it all out with a sigh. Take a few more breaths until you feel yourself getting languid and relaxed. Now start to imagine your ultimate Valentine’s Day date.

Let’s fast-forward through the dinner and champagne, the eating too much candy or hiding disappointment that someone forgot you don’t actually like red roses. Instead, focus on all the ways your lover makes you feel. Picture your bodies entwined, kissing, maybe playing a little rough before lightly brushing your fingertips over their body. Now hold on to this thought—no, hold on to this feeling—because this is how you plan the ultimate Valentine’s Day. Continue Reading

f6621dc0467f97bbc75bfb27af4fd4c5Couples everywhere have been haunted by images of what the traditional, monogamous relationship should look like. You know, boy meets girl, they fall in love, stay together forever and have babies; The End.

While this idea reflects the majority of relationships out there, it isn’t the only option. An alternative, known as an open relationship, has existed alongside monogamous relationships for quite some time now. Continue Reading

2b2016e0-9835-48a9-9b5b-11947649207aWe, as adults, are all about long-term investments. We invest in a relationship that we believe will go the distance. We invest in our 401k, we invest in our dream homes and our dream cars. And yet, we never think to invest in one of the most vital aspects of our relationship – our dream sex life. We focus so intently on the other pieces of the puzzle, and let sex just fade into the background without even realizing how important it really is. Continue Reading

patting

Sometimes it doesn’t matter how much pleasure our body can experience; if we can’t get our minds on board, some of that pleasure has a tendency to get lost in translation. And the harder we try to bridge the gap, the further apart the two can feel. 
As women, we’re well-know for our ability to multi-task. We’re capable of juggling our homes and our jobs, our families and our friends, while still managing to work in a little time to make magic in the bedroom. But until we can get our minds and bodies on the same page, we will never be able to reach our full pleasure potential. So how do you re-connect the two?
 Sex Coach Pam Costa shares how she brought the erotic energy from her body and mind together into one in her latest Down to There blog.

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woodskiss

We grew up hearing bedtime stories about Loch Ness Monsters and unicorns, but we learned to dismiss them as nothing more than folklore and fairytales. As we matured, we faced new nightmares that involved our first kiss, dating our peers and losing our virginity—things we grew up hearing horror stories about. After conquering these milestones, you realize that one person’s doom is not always a shared misfortune. Many of the myths we are led to believe, rather through stories from friends, the media or our own overactive imaginations, are actually doing more harm than good in helping us handle obstacles that really do come our way… Case in point, mismatched libidos.
You’ve heard Pam Costa speak out about her real-life experiences with mismatched libidos. In her latest Down to There blog, she shares more about her journey and lessons she learned on the ancient myths of low libido and relationships.  Continue Reading

receiving

Our parents taught us to say “please and thank you” everywhere we go – But do we really mean it? 
Celebrating a day of gratitude with scrumptious stuffing and mashed potatoes can put us very much in the mood for gratitude, but it’s only one day (or weekend) out of the year…
So how do you apply these lessons all year long, both in your relationship and in the bedroom? Trying a more hands-on approach to our beloved holiday might be just what we need to learn our lesson. 
Sex coach and recent podcast guest Pam Costa shares how she learned a new act of gratitude to practice year-round with the help of an erotic dinner in the latest Down To There blog…

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