We, as adults, are all about long-term investments. We invest in a relationship that we believe will go the distance. We invest in our 401k, we invest in our dream homes and our dream cars. And yet, we never think to invest in one of the most vital aspects of our relationship – our dream sex life. We focus so intently on the other pieces of the puzzle, and let sex just fade into the background without even realizing how important it really is. Continue Reading
Sometimes it doesn’t matter how much pleasure our body can experience; if we can’t get our minds on board, some of that pleasure has a tendency to get lost in translation. And the harder we try to bridge the gap, the further apart the two can feel.
As women, we’re well-know for our ability to multi-task. We’re capable of juggling our homes and our jobs, our families and our friends, while still managing to work in a little time to make magic in the bedroom. But until we can get our minds and bodies on the same page, we will never be able to reach our full pleasure potential. So how do you re-connect the two?
Sex Coach Pam Costa shares how she brought the erotic energy from her body and mind together into one in her latest Down to There blog.
We grew up hearing bedtime stories about Loch Ness Monsters and unicorns, but we learned to dismiss them as nothing more than folklore and fairytales. As we matured, we faced new nightmares that involved our first kiss, dating our peers and losing our virginity—things we grew up hearing horror stories about. After conquering these milestones, you realize that one person’s doom is not always a shared misfortune. Many of the myths we are led to believe, rather through stories from friends, the media or our own overactive imaginations, are actually doing more harm than good in helping us handle obstacles that really do come our way… Case in point, mismatched libidos.
You’ve heard Pam Costa speak out about her real-life experiences with mismatched libidos. In her latest Down to There blog, she shares more about her journey and lessons she learned on the ancient myths of low libido and relationships. Continue Reading
Our parents taught us to say “please and thank you” everywhere we go – But do we really mean it?
Celebrating a day of gratitude with scrumptious stuffing and mashed potatoes can put us very much in the mood for gratitude, but it’s only one day (or weekend) out of the year…
So how do you apply these lessons all year long, both in your relationship and in the bedroom? Trying a more hands-on approach to our beloved holiday might be just what we need to learn our lesson.
Sex coach and recent podcast guest Pam Costa shares how she learned a new act of gratitude to practice year-round with the help of an erotic dinner in the latest Down To There blog…
We tend to think of game-playing as a just-for-kids-activity, but newsflash: Adults can benefit from a little playtime, too! If love and sex is all a game, are you actually having fun with it? Sometimes you need to channel the good old days and let your imagination run wild.
Maybe you feel out of touch with your body lately. Maybe you’re holding back from asking for what you want from a partner. No matter what is holding you back, you need to rediscover the excitement in your life before it’s GAME OVER. So… Are you ready to play?
Sex coach and recent podcast guest Pam Costa shares how playing like a kid helped her bring the fun back to the bedroom in the latest Down to There blog…
How well does your partner know your body? If you had to think about it, they probably don’t. I mean, do you think you know your partner’s body any better? Gotcha!
Now I don’t want to start guilt tripping you or anything, but seeing as our bodies are hard-wired for pleasure, it’s about time we start paying attention to what makes them tick. Next time you embark on a full-body exploration between the sheets, take notice of how your partner is responding to your best moves. Does his back curve when he’s on the edge of orgasm? Do her legs twitch when you’re teasing her clitoris? Our bodies are always sending signals during sex. Can you read the signs?
You don’t need to be a fortune teller to read your partner’s body language, just stay focused. Pam shares how using all her senses helped her be more present in the bedroom in the latest Down to There blog….
They say the smallest details in a relationship can make a big impact. Sometimes these details can be a missed opportunity or a perfect moment. Play your cards rights, and you might just get lucky – It’s up to you!
Timing is everything, and the right look or kiss can help you spark the flame you’ve been waiting for. If you think sex is your only chance for intimacy, you’re wrong. Foreplay starts after the last orgasm, after all!
So what happens when you make a plan to incorporate tiny acts of intimacy into your day to day life? Pam shares how a kiss a day helped kick-start her marriage onto a happy and warm path in the latest Down to There blog.
I learn so much from your podcasts! I am 36 and recently separated from a 16-year relationship. After waiting eight months, I decided I was ready to start dating again. A few colleagues of mine recommended some dating apps, so I checked them out. I went on two OKCupid dates and they went horribly. Then I gave it one last shot and started talking to a guy six years older than me. We have been talking for two weeks but haven’t met in person yet. So far, our connection has been great!
So here’s my question for you: Is there a certain timeline to meet this guy and move forward from there? What do you suggest when it comes to going from cyber- and phone-chatting to meeting IRL?
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If you think you’re having too much sex with someone you love, it’s could be a sign that something’s off in the bedroom. Big or small, any unresolved issues or insecurities can be holding you back from having brag-worthy sex. And if you find that something feels off, you have to confront it head on.
Pam shares what happened when she realized that sex had started to lose it’s flavor – and how expressing her desires helped to get it back – in the latest Down to There blog.
Have you ever heard the saying “You don’t buy the car without taking it for a test drive”? Most of the time, this age old adage is used in favor of premarital sex… An important topic for another day, no doubt.
In this moment, however, I’m applying it to living with a significant other—A journey I recently embarked upon. And let me tell you, if I didn’t believe in the car theory pre-cohabitation, I certainly do now. Continue Reading