They teach us in school about the importance of eye contact. Whether you’re giving a presentation, attending an interview, or speaking with a customer at work, eye contact shows respect, and that you’re listening. So, when it comes to your partner, it only makes sense you’d give them that same respect.
However, have you ever truly gazed into their eyes for longer than twenty or so seconds? How would you feel if the two of you stared into each other’s eyes for five full minutes? It doesn’t feel natural at first, in fact, pretty awkward. Imagine the connection you would feel though, if you got passed the awkwardness. How would you feel then?
Allowing yourself to truly see your partner will give you a deeper connection than you ever thought possible. Sex Coach Pam Costa shares how gazing a little longer can bring you and your love closer than ever in her Down to There blog…
The vows of marriage state, “until death do us part,” that you love and accept each other for who you are, and that you respect that. However, does that mean we have to accept the ways they love us? When maybe… we want something else?
It can be hard to talk to our partners about the ways in which we want to be treated, held, touched. It’s not that they’ve loved you inadequately up until now, but you want them to know exactly what you need, and the only way to do that is to tell them.
Unfortunately, your feedback may not always be perceived as eloquently as you intended. Sex Coach Pam Costa shares how you need to make your sex feedback sexy in her Down to There blog…
Dating used to be so simple. We’d meet people through our friends or colleagues, at the grocery store, at work or at school. It was almost always someone with a close proximity to you, so you could rest assured that they weren’t an axe murderer, and after a date or two, it was pretty easy to figure out where you stood with each other.
Dating today, on the other hand, is a whirlwind of opportunity—and confusion.
We meet people through online dating services and through apps, swiping left and right based on a profile we’ve created—a profile that can sometimes feel like a brand we’re trying to sell to potential suitors. When we actually meet this person in the flesh, we have no idea if our relationship is potentially serious or casual, romantic or platonic. The doubt and ambiguity is just too much! We’re so overwhelmed that we blackout; we forget how we got to the coffee shop, and why we even went on this date in the first place. Continue Reading
They understand the healing power of a latte. If you need feminine supplies, they will not rest until the correct product is slipped discreetly into your hand. No matter how busy life gets, they will always down for brunch. And most importantly, if you are experiencing relationship troubles, they will be there at the drop of a hat to listen, analyze and give advice.
Even if it’s three in the morning and you’re freaking out over a text message laced with mixed signals, you know that all you need to do is put out the bat signal — like magic, they will materialize, wine in hand, to help you sort through the mess. It’s a beautiful thing, really. Continue Reading
When you enter into a long-term relationship, you’re prepared to share the most intimate parts of your life, from your greatest dreams to your worst fears to the REAL number of times you’ve seen Titanic.
But no one ever mentioned how hard it would be to sit down in front of a partner and say, “I want you to bend me over your knee and spank me.” Guess they left that part out…
Opening up about your sexual needs and desires may seem like an impossible task, but the benefits are well worth the effort it takes to get there. And the good news, it doesn’t have to be as serious or scary as you think. In fact, it can actually be kind of hot…
The excitement of Valentine’s Day is winding down, leaving many of you wondering “now what”? You’ve spent the last week showering your partner with gifts, affection and fancy dinner reservations; love was in the air. But now it’s back to your regularly scheduled relationship. *sigh*
The way I see it, couples have two choices: surrender to the post-Valentine’s Day slump OR find a way to make every day the day of love. It really is that simple. Continue Reading
Here’s how to play: Relax your body… take a deep, deep inhale… let it all out with a sigh. Take a few more breaths until you feel yourself getting languid and relaxed. Now start to imagine your ultimate Valentine’s Day date.
Let’s fast-forward through the dinner and champagne, the eating too much candy or hiding disappointment that someone forgot you don’t actually like red roses. Instead, focus on all the ways your lover makes you feel. Picture your bodies entwined, kissing, maybe playing a little rough before lightly brushing your fingertips over their body. Now hold on to this thought—no, hold on to this feeling—because this is how you plan the ultimate Valentine’s Day. Continue Reading
Couples everywhere have been haunted by images of what the traditional, monogamous relationship should look like. You know, boy meets girl, they fall in love, stay together forever and have babies; The End.
While this idea reflects the majority of relationships out there, it isn’t the only option. An alternative, known as an open relationship, has existed alongside monogamous relationships for quite some time now. Continue Reading
We, as adults, are all about long-term investments. We invest in a relationship that we believe will go the distance. We invest in our 401k, we invest in our dream homes and our dream cars. And yet, we never think to invest in one of the most vital aspects of our relationship – our dream sex life. We focus so intently on the other pieces of the puzzle, and let sex just fade into the background without even realizing how important it really is. Continue Reading