I learn so much from your podcasts! I am 36 and recently separated from a 16-year relationship. After waiting eight months, I decided I was ready to start dating again. A few colleagues of mine recommended some dating apps, so I checked them out. I went on two OKCupid dates and they went horribly. Then I gave it one last shot and started talking to a guy six years older than me. We have been talking for two weeks but haven’t met in person yet. So far, our connection has been great!
So here’s my question for you: Is there a certain timeline to meet this guy and move forward from there? What do you suggest when it comes to going from cyber- and phone-chatting to meeting IRL?
Laura in LA Continue Reading
If you think you’re having too much sex with someone you love, it’s could be a sign that something’s off in the bedroom. Big or small, any unresolved issues or insecurities can be holding you back from having brag-worthy sex. And if you find that something feels off, you have to confront it head on.
Pam shares what happened when she realized that sex had started to lose it’s flavor – and how expressing her desires helped to get it back – in the latest Down to There blog.
Have you ever heard the saying “You don’t buy the car without taking it for a test drive”? Most of the time, this age old adage is used in favor of premarital sex… An important topic for another day, no doubt.
In this moment, however, I’m applying it to living with a significant other—A journey I recently embarked upon. And let me tell you, if I didn’t believe in the car theory pre-cohabitation, I certainly do now. Continue Reading
You hear questions about mismatched libidos all the time on my podcast—One partner naturally desires sex more than the other, and resentments begin to build. So what does it actually feel like to be the partner who wants sex less?
Pam shares an important lesson she learned about her own struggle with desire and its affects on her marriage in the latest Down to There blog…
You know how I’m always talking about the importance of mindful breathing when it comes to your pleasure? Well breath can also play a powerful role sexual desire… As Pam found out in her first Somatica coaching session!
Read on to find out how breathing “all the way down to there” helped her reconnect with her body and discover something new about herself (or to catch up, check out her first blog here)…
Confidence. All the dating experts, coaches, and publications in the world that have anything to do with dating preach the importance of confidence for attracting women – and rightfully so. But confidence doesn’t stop being important when a relationship begins. Continue Reading
Q: I’ve been with my boyfriend for around 8 months and have still never had a REAL orgasm during sex. And as if this isn’t bad enough, my partner has no idea, because I’ve gotten into the habit of faking it. I know, it’s terrible!
It’s that time of year again: time for spring cleaning, where it’s out with the old and in with the new. People start to go through their closets and cupboards, deciding what stays and what goes—it’s therapeutic, refreshing, and a long-standing tradition.
Along with last season’s sweaters and that broken down toaster oven, spring cleaning also presents us with the opportunity to take a really hard look at our relationships. This is a time for getting rid of possessions AND people that no longer serve you; a time to reevaluate your negative behaviors, throw out whatever isn’t working, and spice up your daily routine. Continue Reading