I recently started dating a guy (a great guy, actually!) and things are going really well. There’s only one problem… I’m afraid to have sex with him! We’ve been seeing each other for almost two months now and we still haven’t done the deed. It’s not that I’m not attracted to him or that I’m afraid he won’t respect me. The real reason is that I am pretty sure I’m bad in bed.
I’ve only been with two guys, and neither seemed to be that into the sex. One of them looked downright bored! I like this new guy a lot and would really like to wow him in the sack, but now I’m extremely self-conscious. What if we have sex and it’s terrible and he doesn’t want to date me anymore? I need help! How do I know if I’m terrible at sex? And more importantly, how can I fix it?
So let’s be honest: Every man wants to believe that he is incredible in bed. You want that feeling of accomplishment, that gold star on your sexual resume, that hushed whisper between ex-lovers: “He was THE BEST I’ve ever had”. You want to know that when you roll yourself over for the classic post-sex “Was it good for you?” that your partner’s resounding YES was 100% the real deal.
Unfortunately for men, women are much better at handing out empty compliments and “job well done”s than we are at offering constructive criticism. Meaning that you could be walking around with that extra swagger in your step, without any idea of what you might be doing wrong (or how to fix it, for that matter).
Lucky for you, I’m not afraid to hit you with the hard facts: There are certain areas that a lot of men tend to stumble over. So if you really want to knock it out of the park, sexually speaking, allow me to offer a few helpful and totally uncensored pointers. From jumping the gun with dirty talk to not knowing what to do with your hands, here are five common mistakes that you may make in bed, and how to overcome them.
I don’t care if your penis isn’t super-sized or if you can’t last forever. Some of the worst sex of my life has been with dudes with big penises, and even bigger egos. I regrettably lay beneath his sweaty body– clitoris untouched– while he endlessly pumps away. When God will it end?
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You’re not bad in bed because you don’t have a huge penis that lasts forever. You’re bad in bed because– you forget about foreplay, you don’t know how to perform oral sex, you have sex like a jackrabbit, you aren’t thinking about your partner’s pleasure, or you’re so scared of doing something wrong that you don’t do anything at all. Listening to this podcast will make you great in bed. Or at least better than before. Continue Reading
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