Self-pleasure, self-love, flicking the bean, jerking off, playing with peter, petting the kitty – yes, I’m talking about good ole masturbation.
There are so many names for the solo act, yet a multitude of people still think of it as their dirty secret. Their secret shame. Personally, I like it’s given name. Although I, too, once felt weird to tell the truth of what happens behind my locked bedroom door, I now proudly proclaim to all that lend their ears that I “Netflix & Chill” with myself on a fairly regular (daily) basis.
On today’s show, Emily is discussing new findings and revelations about the world of sex – including the male birth control pill and making casual sex fun again.
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We here at SWE love variety; it’s the spice of your sex life! We’re all about mixing it up, trying new positions, products, toys and perspectives. There’s a reason so many of you write and ask Emily about inviting a third into your bedroom; you’re tired of your routine sex and ready to mix things up!
But we also know that there’s a place for the tried-and-true type of sex. Finding those positions that you know are going to work, that are physically comfortable and get the job done for everyone. And it’s true what they say: once you’ve mastered the basics of anything, you’re better prepared to master the more advanced techniques.
Unlocking a woman’s pleasure is not always an easy feat, so it’s no wonder there are so many toys geared towards doing just that.
From external to internal to anal stimulation – there are so many ways to explore the complexities of the female body.
What better way to show the lovely lady in your life you care than with a gadget designed to revere and rejoice that exploration?
October kicks off Halloween season, and many of you are already imagining getting your hands on some sweet treats– and I’m not just talking about candy. Between the promise of sexy costumes and nights of snuggling up against your partner, watching horror movies, everything about October makes us want to get our hands on our boos.
Which is why we’re going to teach you all the tricks and treats of proper fingering techniques.
I’ve been hearing about this Magic Wand for well over a decade now. Unfortunately, I was sexually stunted all through my 20’s, meaning I didn’t even buy my first vibrator until my mid 30’s. Mostly because the patriarchy still isn’t 100% on board with women’s pleasure. It doesn’t want sexually empowered lionesses who put our own needs, especially orgasms, first. No, women like us are a serious threat to the power structure and, therefore, have been slut-shamed into oblivion.
This kind of cultural brainwashing, plus my Southern upbringing, resulted in me being a sexual prude for a long ass time. A prude too ashamed to masturbate, even in college, despite the fact my friends were having threesomes by then. The fact I’d never been with a man who’d given me those fireworks-style orgasms probably had something to do with it, too. Either way, ignorance and shame turned me into a sexual Debbie Downer who just assumed orgasms weren’t in the cards for me.
Oh, how the tides have changed! Continue Reading
When you think of a womanizer, what comes to mind? Probably some cold-hearted casanova from your past who dates around, sleeps around and leaves your heart just as empty as your bed. The first time I heard whispers about The Womanizer and the amazing orgasms it provided, I thought “Here we go again. Another jerk who is great in bed and even better at disappearing. Thanks, but no thanks.”
Imagine my surprise when the pleasure-provider in question was not a man at all, but an innovative, German-engineered clitoral stimulator. This Womanizer is USB rechargeable, made of body-safe silicone and promises an entirely new masturbatory experience. It won’t break your heart or suck out your soul. It will suck your clitoris, but we’ll get to that later! Continue Reading