Many women have trouble orgasming, whether they’re with a partner or by themselves. Some have so much trouble, they think that an orgasm just isn’t in the cards for them. Putting so much focus and attention on something can actually be what’s keeping you from attaining your goal.
These thoughts of “I have to orgasm; come on it’s going to happen; you’re so close, just get there” can overwhelm your brain, making you miss the mark every time (or result in a mediocre orgasm). The best way to start your journey towards the big O is actually take climaxing off the table. Don’t worry about getting to the end, just enjoy the ride.
Being in the moment during sex instead of driving towards a goal will make greater strides in your quest to orgasm than you think. Sex Coach Pam Costa shares her first experience letting go of her quest and how mind-blowing it became in her Down to There blog…
Being tied up by a partner is a fantasy many have, but not nearly as many actually put this fantasy in motion. In order to let someone tie you up– even the person you’re madly in love with, you have to trust them whole-heartedly. They literally hold the reigns, tying you up in any way, constricting you, keeping you from control.
It can be hard to let someone have that much physical control over you, especially if that’s something you have an issue with. You might feel the urge to regain some control and direct them, but what if you fought that urge? What if you let go completely, and let your body give the feedback?
Putting all of your trust in your partner may surprise you in a way you never thought possible. Sex Coach Pam Costa shares her first experience letting go and letting her husband tie her up in her Down to There blog…
They teach us in school about the importance of eye contact. Whether you’re giving a presentation, attending an interview, or speaking with a customer at work, eye contact shows respect, and that you’re listening. So, when it comes to your partner, it only makes sense you’d give them that same respect.
However, have you ever truly gazed into their eyes for longer than twenty or so seconds? How would you feel if the two of you stared into each other’s eyes for five full minutes? It doesn’t feel natural at first, in fact, pretty awkward. Imagine the connection you would feel though, if you got passed the awkwardness. How would you feel then?
Allowing yourself to truly see your partner will give you a deeper connection than you ever thought possible. Sex Coach Pam Costa shares how gazing a little longer can bring you and your love closer than ever in her Down to There blog…
The vows of marriage state, “until death do us part,” that you love and accept each other for who you are, and that you respect that. However, does that mean we have to accept the ways they love us? When maybe… we want something else?
It can be hard to talk to our partners about the ways in which we want to be treated, held, touched. It’s not that they’ve loved you inadequately up until now, but you want them to know exactly what you need, and the only way to do that is to tell them.
Unfortunately, your feedback may not always be perceived as eloquently as you intended. Sex Coach Pam Costa shares how you need to make your sex feedback sexy in her Down to There blog…
When you enter into a long-term relationship, you’re prepared to share the most intimate parts of your life, from your greatest dreams to your worst fears to theREAL number of times you’ve seen Titanic.
But no one ever mentioned how hard it would be to sit down in front of a partner and say, “I want you to bend me over your knee and spank me.” Guess they left that part out…
Opening up about your sexual needs and desires may seem like an impossible task, but the benefits are well worth the effort it takes to get there. And the good news, it doesn’t have to be as serious or scary as you think. In fact, it can actually be kind of hot…
We all have our own methods of masturbation, whether we’re flicking the bean or polishing the bishop, but do we know where we learned them from? Like, when did we decide to touch ourselves for pleasure?
Most men stumbled across masturbation at an early age—not hard to believe considering the fact that their penises are in plain view. Women, unfortunately, don’t have that advantage. For many of us, our vaginas were out of sight, out of mind… until we made the decision to go looking for them. Then the real fun begins.
No stranger to masturbation, but always interested in discovering more, Pam shares how she re-learned to self-love in the wildest way possible in the latest Down to There blog…
Sometimes it doesn’t matter how much pleasure our body can experience; if we can’t get our minds on board, some of that pleasure has a tendency to get lost in translation. And the harder we try to bridge the gap, the further apart the two can feel.
As women, we’re well-know for our ability to multi-task. We’re capable of juggling our homes and our jobs, our families and our friends, while still managing to work in a little time to make magic in the bedroom. But until we can get our minds and bodies on the same page, we will never be able to reach our full pleasure potential. So how do you re-connect the two?
Sex Coach Pam Costa shares how she brought the erotic energy from her body and mind together into one in her latest Down to There blog.
We grew up hearing bedtime stories about Loch Ness Monsters and unicorns, but we learned to dismiss them as nothing more than folklore and fairytales. As we matured, we faced new nightmares that involved our first kiss, dating our peers and losing our virginity—things we grew up hearing horror stories about. After conquering these milestones, you realize that one person’s doom is not always a shared misfortune. Many of the myths we are led to believe, rather through stories from friends, the media or our own overactive imaginations, are actually doing more harm than good in helping us handle obstacles that really do come our way… Case in point, mismatched libidos.
You’ve heard Pam Costa speak out about her real-life experiences with mismatched libidos. In her latest Down to There blog, she shares more about her journey and lessons she learned on the ancient myths of low libido and relationships. Continue Reading
Our parents taught us to say “please and thank you” everywhere we go – But do we really mean it?
Celebrating a day of gratitude with scrumptious stuffing and mashed potatoes can put us very much in the mood for gratitude, but it’s only one day (or weekend) out of the year…
So how do you apply these lessons all year long, both in your relationship and in the bedroom? Trying a more hands-on approach to our beloved holiday might be just what we need to learn our lesson.
Sex coach and recent podcast guest Pam Costa shares how she learned a new act of gratitude to practice year-round with the help of an erotic dinner in the latest Down To Thereblog…
We tend to think of game-playing as a just-for-kids-activity, but newsflash: Adults can benefit from a little playtime, too! If love and sex is all a game, are you actually having fun with it? Sometimes you need to channel the good old days and let your imagination run wild.
Maybe you feel out of touch with your body lately. Maybe you’re holding back from asking for what you want from a partner. No matter what is holding you back, you need to rediscover the excitement in your life before it’s GAME OVER. So… Are you ready to play?
Sex coach and recent podcast guest Pam Costa shares how playing like a kid helped her bring the fun back to the bedroom in the latest Down to There blog…
Many women have trouble orgasming, whether they’re with a partner or by themselves. Some have so much trouble, they think that an orgasm just isn’t in the cards for them. Putting so much focus and attention on something can actually be what’s keeping you from attaining your goal.
Being tied up by a partner is a fantasy many have, but not nearly as many actually put this fantasy in motion. In order to let someone tie you up– even the person you’re madly in love with, you have to trust them whole-heartedly. They literally hold the reigns, tying you up in any way, constricting you, keeping you from control.
They teach us in school about the importance of eye contact. Whether you’re giving a presentation, attending an interview, or speaking with a customer at work, eye contact shows respect, and that you’re listening. So, when it comes to your partner, it only makes sense you’d give them that same respect.
The vows of marriage state, “until death do us part,” that you love and accept each other for who you are, and that you respect that. However, does that mean we have to accept the ways they love us? When maybe… we want something else?
We tend to think of game-playing as a just-for-kids-activity, but newsflash: Adults can benefit from a little playtime, too! If love and sex is all a game, are you actually having fun with it? Sometimes you need to channel the good old days and let your imagination run wild.
