With the rise in popularity of BDSM and all things kink, there are also a lot of misconceptions going around. Unfortunately, some of the recent movies about BDSM (not naming names *cough*) miss the mark on the cornerstone principles of BDSM for most kinksters.
As summer draws to a close, Alternative August is just getting started. You still have weeks to schedule unbridled passion and the best sex of the year. Over the summer months, many activities vie for your attention, from super hero films to camping trips. But if you’ve yet to find a blockbuster that thrilled you or a sightseeing trip that wowed you, it’s time to feast your eyes on exhibitionist and voyeuristic action in the bedroom!
Seeing someone talk so openly about sex and their intimate lives leads you to believe they have it all figured out. All their problems have been solved, and they’re done asking questions.
In reality, not even these incredibly open people will reach a point of having all the answers. But talking about your journey can help others see that they’re not alone– and neither are you!
Sex Coach Pam Costa shares how even those that seem to have it altogether still have room to grow in her Down to There blog…
When you enter into a long-term relationship, you’re prepared to share the most intimate parts of your life, from your greatest dreams to your worst fears to the REAL number of times you’ve seen Titanic.
But no one ever mentioned how hard it would be to sit down in front of a partner and say, “I want you to bend me over your knee and spank me.” Guess they left that part out…
Opening up about your sexual needs and desires may seem like an impossible task, but the benefits are well worth the effort it takes to get there. And the good news, it doesn’t have to be as serious or scary as you think. In fact, it can actually be kind of hot…
I’ve been with my boyfriend for three-and-a-half years and the sex is great! We both get wonderful pleasure from each other and are open to trying new moves. My issue (one that has been evident from the start of the relationship) is that I am always in the driver’s seat when it comes to our sexual experiences. I always make the first move. I have tried to talk to him about it but he’s not willing to do anything differently. It feels like he doesn’t even want to have sex with me unless I make him.
Like you said in one of your podcasts, a common female fantasy is that of being dominated—well, I want that! I got him to do this once and I loved it, but it hasn’t happened since. I am exhausted from having to take the lead all the time. I just want him to want me more. How do I get him to initiate sex with me more often?
Please help me Emily!
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Well, the fantasy of some of these situations SOUND sexy, but the reality is that well… they really aren’t very sexy at all. Here are a few sexual scenarios that sound fun and kinky at first, but when attempted, are not all they’re cracked up to be. Continue Reading
What gets you hot, and what gets you hot and bothered? I recently asked people to share their biggest turn-ons and turn-offs. The most amusing and true turn-on and the turn-off win Forta, an all natural sexual enhancement for men and women. Various themes were prevalent for both turn-ons and turn-offs— mouth (kissing-turn-on, bad teeth- turn-off), sweat (“sweaty man” – turn-on; but B.O. -turn-off), and leg wear (fishnets- turn on; socks- turn off).