I’m a single mom and my daughter is 2 years old.
I’ve tried online dating apps, but the guys back off after a couple of days. Do guys not want to date single mothers?I’ve lost hope in finding a relationship. Please help me, Emily!
When I was 17 years old, I had never orgasmed, despite having had one or two sexual partners. I read that placing your clit right underneath running water is a way to reach orgasm! So, I tried it. And to this day, it is the only way I can climax.
I have a serious boyfriend now, but I don’t orgasm with him. What do I do? Am I doomed to only come in the presence of running water?
May, age 19
I’m very open-minded sexually, but I have a hard time accepting my boyfriend’s porn habit.
We have a great sex life and try new things, but he still watches porn. I can’t help wondering…aren’t I enough? Is he comparing me to these women? Is that how he wants me to act? It isn’t fair for me to ask him to stop, so how can I get used to it? Please help!
Janine, 27, Iowa
I have been with my boyfriend for about a year. He recently transferred law schools, so now we’re in a long distance relationship. I really value physical touch in love-language-speak and, well, long-distance makes that a bit difficult.
Do you have any recommendations for keeping things hot?
Amy, 27, SC
I recently started seeing a guy, and although his penis is magnificent and huge, it’s an even huger problem. I’m a petite woman, and so far, sex with him has been very painful. I’ve managed to get through it multiple times, but I’m always incredibly sore afterward.
Is there anything I can do to lessen the pain, or is the fact his penis is too big something I’ll have to get used to?
My sex life with my husband almost exclusively revolves around nipple play. We both love giving and receiving nipple stimulation, and it’s our primary foreplay.
To keep things new and fun, I’ve researched nipple toys but can’t seem to find any with consistently positive reviews. What toys or techniques can enhance our routine?
Q: DEAR EMILY,
I’m a 27-year-old female, and I’ve basically been single my entire adult life. I’ve had relationships, but nothing longer than a few months. I’ve wanted to be in a relationship for as long as I can remember, but I also try to put it out of my mind so I don’t obsess about it. I have met a few guys at work or on a dating app, but it seems that they just want to text every day and not actually meet up.
So I want to know: How can I meet a good guy? And if I am talking to a guy via text, how can I make a date happen?
Q: DEAR EMILY,
I have an extremely healthy (and safe) sex life with my boyfriend—but here’s my issue. I have no idea how to talk dirty. Normally I’d say how great he feels inside of me, tell him to put his hands here or there, but I get stuck after this. I don’t want to sound like a porn star, but I do want him to be turned on from what I say.
What can I say besides this to turn him on that isn’t too intense?
Q: DEAR EMILY,
I’ve been dating my current boyfriend for just about a year now, and he’s amazing! We have great sex, but it’s not always the most exciting. He regularly asks me what I’m interested in, but I don’t know how to approach the topic. We recently took a sex questionnaire (where you compare answers at the end), and it really helped me to get some of my wants out on the table—which he’s been very responsive to—but I’d still like to try some more exciting things, like temperature play and being tied down.
How do I bring these up without (a) scaring the pants off him and (b) making him feel bad? Because I love our sex, I just think it could be more intense and sensual.
Amelia, 26, France